How long does this phase last? what's the best way to deal with it?

[munz]

J is currently screaming when you take something away from him - doesn't matter what it is be it his toys (when we're off out) or something he shouldn't have, he screams blue murder. If you give the item back to him he's quite (I do not want to encourage this one thou if I can help it), if you distract him with something else he settles down after a fashion but lets you know his displeasure.

so far i've been destracting him with other toys esp if it's soemthing he can't have, but DH feels we shouldn't need to distract him with something else. which is the best course? he's only 10 months so still learning, but I just wondered which would be the best route, and how long we can expect this phase to last (hoping it's just a phase anyhow )

also is it any indication to how his 2's will be? - prob not but was just wondering.

he does sharing btw so would it be better to get him to 'share' with me what ever I don't want him to have - althou with sharing we normally give the thing he's given us back to him. as it's things like food! lol.

Munz - he is only 10mo - a tiny tiny baby

When you see them grow so rapidly during the first year, they can seem so grown up compared with when they were new borns. But really, believe me, when he is 4 or 5 and you can start to expect good manners and behaviour, you will look back and see how tiny, tiny he is right now.

I think your expectations of him are way too high for 10mo. Just relax and enjoy your baby and laugh at all his funny ways. Distraction is incredibly effective at this age - he is far far too young for any other kind of behaviour modification tools at this age, IMHO.

that's what I thought! lol. and it works sooo well! lol. esp when you give him his play phone! lol.

thanks thou

If you need to take something off him and he's unhappy, pick him up and blow a raspberry on his tummy, then spin round with him in a big cuddle and laugh, talking to him in a silly voice.

munz, my dd 3.3 will still cry if we take something off her. It is just that at her age, we can use advance warning, give her an opportunity to give it back herself. Distraction still works sometimes lol.

So with respect to your question about how long this phase will last, erm, for sometime yet, possibly throughout childhood and well into later years

J is developing an opinion and a sense of self. I think his behaviour is absolutely normal. Distraction is the right tactic at his tender age.

lol. opinion, oh yes we all know his opinion when he dislikes something lol. he's v noisey like his daddy about some things and grumbly like his uncle over others! lol.

hunker love your idea as he likes the tummy tickles when his nappy's being changed - for obv reasons we don't do that when his winkle's exposed thou! lol.

lol indeed I agree with the other posters. he is far too young atm to manipulate with his mind. he is simply responding to simple desires - wants, food, cold, uncomfy etc.

he is not old enough to understand manners, rights/wrongs, sharing etc. My 3.5 year old has trouble with sharing...lol.

worry not