DD had a friend from school over to play today. After about an hour playing in her room, I heard her screaming at her friend. She said it was because friend didnt want to do what she wanted to do, and seconds later it blew up again. Normally i would let kids sort themselves out as much as possible, but I couldnt let this go on so i separated them for a while. DD got really angry with me, and kept crying. Eventually things calmed down and they played together again, but I felt the day had been spoilt badly.
Now Im worried about letting her go to other peoples houses - she doesnt get asked all that often and im worried this is why, but parents dont like to say so. She has always had a temper, with violent tantrums when she was 2 - 3, but she just does not seem to notice that nobody else behaves like this. She certainly has no sense of embarrassment - she was karate chopping another childs arm at the christingle service last week, and did not seem to think there was any reason to stop.
The sad thing is that she often says she is lonely because she doesnt have a brother or sister (cue big guilt trip)so I want her to have friends. But no matter how hard we try she doesnt seem to understand that some behaviours are unacceptable. When she was little I was always asking the HV about her tantrums, but she just said it was normal.