She does have full fat milk on her breakfast and occasionally for a drink. She'll eat 1 or 2 weetabix for breakfast, sometimes toast too and a fruit juice. Lunch is normally a sandwich and yoghurt - she eats very little then. Tea is something like chicken, mashed potato, sweetcorn and peas. Pud is fruit of some sort, maybe tinned. Occasionally rice pudding or ice cream. Sometimes she is ravenous and sometimes hardly eats anything. She doesn't eat chips, it's always mash or jacket, and rarely eats crisps.
If we go out somewhere she'll always choose soup and bread (she even asked for it in Macdonalds and was cross that she couldn't have it!), she'd never choose anything off the children's menu. In fact she'd have soup all week if I let her. It's great because I liquidise all sorts of veg and call it soup and she'll eat it. The Macdonalds was probably the 2nd one this year.
She doesn't really snack between meals. Occasionally she'll have a biscuit or something like a piece of malt loaf. She has squash and I give her the sugared variety as I don't want her having the one with sweeteners in. She isn't a great drinker, so she isn't having gallons of sugary squash.
I'd say she's fairly active. We swim most weeks, she goes to the park, runs around at pre-school and playgroup.
I might phone back the HV and talk to her more about it. She really didn't seem that worried, and I trust her. I might also write a food/drink diary just to see if there is extra sugary/fatty things creeping in that I don't realise. It's funny, my step-d (who doesn't live with us) is at the other end of the scale and we worry about how little she eats and how thin she is.
I've talked to dh too tonight and he just says "she isn't fat, don't worry". So maybe I'm fretting over nothing. Neither of us are particularly big, dh is bigger than he should be but not fat. I'm a size 12 with enormous norks!