19 mo still has his dummy

[merrylissiemas]

HOW tf am i going to get him out of it. need help, it's affecting his speech

My ds 21months still has his and I'm not planning to do anything about it just yet. However while at my mums last week he kept giving his dummy back to her and eventually went to sleep without it because the only one she had was torn. Think it will be my strategy when the time comes.

How often does he use it, and in what context? What is he doing when he uses it? Eg is it just fro sleep (i'm guessing not if it is affecting speech), does he use it when he's parted from you, or when he is in car/buggy? Or is it something he uses when he gets irritable?

You could try restricting the dummy to nap and bed times. He's still v young. DD had her dummy till she was 3.5, at bed time( although she would have had it all day if i'd let her), at that age she understood about the 'dummy fairy' who took them away and left a gift. The whole process was painless.

My DD2 is 2.4 and has a dummy. Its mainly resticted to sleep times.
She does ask for it a lot during the day at the moment and the other day she managed to push her high chair to the cupboard and climb on the work top to reach the pot they are kept in! They have now been moved!

I would say keep to just night time use. DD2 has to put hers in her cot before we come downstairs.

he uses it for comfort mainly, if he's upset he grabs a dummy. but he grabs any available dummy when i'm not looking. really don't know how to deal with it

Make sure all dummies are away when you don't want him to have them, they are a great source of comfort to little ones and he will naturally go for it if he's upset or tired.
I turned my house upside down and chucked all but 3 dummies away and kep them in the cupboard so I chose when she had them.

Both ds's had dummies. Ds1 nearly 7 had his till he was 3.4. years old and he had it all the time. He was an early talker but would talk to you with it hanging out of his mouth. It never bothered me, I think it bothered other people more. He lost it one day and I never found it (probably under our wardrobe or somewhere), and I didn't buy him anymore. So he stopped.
Ds2 had his till he was about 15months (he is nearly 3) the only reason he went off his was because, he used to bite them and he didn't like it with all the bitten ends. So he just stopped. If it went on for much longer in both boys I would have probably cut it down to just daytimes or just nighttimes.
Restricting to night times is a good suggestion, but hey, they give it up eventually. I am sure there are very few older children with dummies unlike ones who suck thir fingers or thumbs, I should know I sucked my finger till I was about 15 !!!

tell him he can have his dummy any time he wants, but he has to lie in his cot when he has it. pretty soon he'll see that lying in is cot is pretty boring and he'd rather be playing with toys sans dummy.

My ds is 2.5 months today he only used to have his at night I would hide it in the daytime in my kitchen cupboards, about 3 weeks ago he bit the plastic bit and I was frightened he would choke so that night I told him he cant have it as he has bitten a hole through it he hasnt bothered with it since I thought we might have tantrums that next evening he did ask for it but I ignored him and it has worked. My ds speech has been loads better since we have got rid of it however your ds is still young at 19 months so I wouldnt orry to much just yet they all develop differently.