After two weeks of good behaviour in September, DS1 (5) seems to spend his playtime in 'time out' (12 minutes today). He is always let out last at home time as there is always some story for the teacher or TA to relate to me about his hitting of others, destroying their work and today, his manifesting visible delight in having pushed someone off a piece of playground equipment. Yes, it's horrendous and I am mortified but things are bad at home to around his sibling and us - violent outbursts, defiance and no remorse or empathy. He had the same issues at nursery and I told the school all this when he started.
I am starting to wonder about a spiral of negativity here.
What does anyone else think about such heavy sanctions in Reception year?
I am not for a minute suggesting a light touch but here's the thing: this boy does not demonstrate any empathy, nor does he care if he misses out on playtime. In other words, depriving him of treats / playtime or whatever DOES NOT positively influence his behaviour or get rid of the problem. In other words, he does not think, oh, I'd best not whack so and so over the head or else I won't get to play. He does not work like that.
I am tired and at my wits' end. Should I try and see a private ed. psych for some advice? Thanks all.