DD upset at getting a brother

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Not sure where to post this and have also name changed as this will totally out me!

Had 20 wk scan today and found out we are having a boy. However my DD (4) has not taken the news well at all. She had her heart set on a baby sister and has literally cried herself to sleep because she is so upset.

How am I going to handle this and try and talk her round?? Can't be doing with this for another 4 months and possibly beyond! It's put a real downer on the day. Has anyone experienced this or have any advice please?

She will get over it don't worry! My dd was the same, but after a few days talking about all the girly things she would be able to do just with mummy etc she came around!

My ds didn't want a sister - his friends all had little brothers. However he was fairly happy about getting "a baby at our house" so we just talked about " the baby" for a few months until he got over it.
Lots of empathising with him and reminding him how the poor baby couldn't do xyz as they were too little, and they get on really well now!
A baby is a baby.

My friends DD sobbed about not getting a sister pretty regularly until her brother was born. She absolutely adores him now. Don't worry too much she will be fine

As a child I remember being totally disappointed that my promised "brother" turned out to just be a baby!
All babies are the same really do I'd forget all talk of brothers and just talk about "the baby" and her being a wonderful big sister.

I well remember the ructions around the house when ds, then 7, found out that the much awaited baby brother was actually a baby sister. He was distinctly underwhelmed and when she arrived a few months later bearing a longed-for cat costume (complete with tail) for him, it still took a while for him to forget that we'd been delivered the wrong baby.
They're kind of OK now, at 21 and 14.
This too will pass.

Thanks everyone! Fingers crossed! I probably haven't helped the situation as I too thought it would be a girl - there's not been a boy born in our family for generations so it's a bit of a shock all round! Thanks for the advice

If you were talking about having a girl in front of her she'll have picked up on that. A baby brother will be just as wonderful. No different. For you or for her (unless you choose to treat him differently).

Dd was desperate for a sister so we didn't find out. She wanted a sister anyway, but as soon as he was here she absolutely loved him. She's never talked about a sister since- she will be okay when he arrives- could she go and choose him a special outfit or something? We did this