"Hi Everyone, please can someone give me some advice on what i should do". Im really desperate to the point of im beging for advice.B 4 you read this you should make yourself a cup of coffee/tea as i have alot of issues!!
I have 2 gorgeous children DS who is 3yrs on new years eve and a DD who is 19months. They love each other to bits but my DS is becoming a nightmare towards his little sister. He wont let her play with anything without snatching it off of her.Then because DD is not happy with her brother she litterally throws herself on the floor holding her head as though she is in pain,{she is not}and screams soo loudly she could smash glass, by this time I go down onto my DS level eye contact with his and explain that he is not aloud to snatch and we must share etc etc as we all do, I ask him to say sorry to his sister which he does and as soon as my DD has stopped screaming, even thoughmy DS has said sorry to her she will go out of her way to bite him!!! Then he hits he for biting him!! Im honestly going out of my mind as this goes on from the time they both wake at the awfull hour of 6am to 7pm My husband says i should stay in the same room with them at all times, but as you mums know in the real world you cant be attached to their sides every waking hour when you haev a house to run.All i do is tell the children off, for hitting or bitting. Here what i have tried.The naughty corner/step for my DS,didnt really work as much as i stuck to it.I tried picking up my daughter when my DS was being spitefull and taking her in another room saying to her that my DS name, was not being a good boy as he was not letting DD name play and he was not sharing then saying mummy and DD will play nicely and share and when my ds comes in to play he will always come in saying sorry which is good, but within 2mins max the whole scenario has kicked off again. The only time they are both like angels is when Lazy town is on!! thank god for sportacus!!
I feel such a bad mum as all i do is tell my son off, saying leave her alone, let her play,dont hurt her,why wont you eat your dinner, you love that dinner its your favourite, you havent eaten anything all day,you have to eat your breakfast/Lunch/dinner or you wont be strong like sportacus!! Everything i seem to say is negative to him and its breaking my heart and now he seems to be in a very different world the past month? I read the post on behaviour problems and he relates to that as though it was written about him, he doesnt want to go to bed of a night, says every excuse under the sun, Im starving mummy, Im burning up im so hot mummy!! Im not tired mummy although i have put him to bed later than usual. But whats hard is that he screams the place down so that he doesnt go to sleep and im always worried that he will wake up my DD as i put her down to bed first about 7-7.30pm and then put my son to bed, cant do it the other way round as she goes to sleep like an angel; most of the time anyway.So i was relieived to hear that it is a common thing, but i honestly feel like im going to have a nervous breakdown.I have spoken to my health visitor, but my ones are useless as all they do is say yur very stressed and emotional right now lets put you on prozac to help calm you down and as for the children its just a phase!!!!!!!!!!!!
All im asking is, is there any suggestions anyone can give me for siblings of a close age gap? And has anyone had the problem of their children coming into your bed? My son starts waking about 2am and crys out for me or his dad, refuses to go back to sleep in his bed and demands to come into ours, shouts so loud that DD wakes up aswell and then both of them are in our bed, which means my husband goes back to sleep somehow? knowing i will make sure they wont fall out of our bed and i never get any sleep.So how would anyone suggest keeping them in their own bed when they wake at night, I dont like giving them a milk which is what they always ask for, i just give them water to their frustration, but if i dont sleep of a night at the moment im getting approximatly 2-3hours a night i dont have the patience to deal with their tantrums throughout the day.
So Recap: please help on; sibbling rivalry in toddlers?
middle of the night waking,stopping them coming in our bed, any ideas tried and tested. I would be sooooo greatfull for any advice, as im at my wits end. I dont want to be one of these parents who continually shout around their children!!
I know you may all think im a bad mum, but im not,i love them more than anything in the world but im desperate for help as all i do all day is cry,{not in front of them obviusly } where i have no energy from lack of sleep and struggle to cope with the tantrums at one another.
please help.xx {sad}