Don't know where to start. Not sure if I'm the one with a problem or my 9 mo DD.
Had rubbish few years - dM dying, various other stresses. Finally got my PFB in January.
I am so concerned about her development it is stopping me enjoying her and is all consuming. I've got insight,, I know I am obsessional, comparing with NCT babies, constantly googling but I don't know what else to do to feel better. I'm thinking I might need a bit of help from GP as wondering if anxiety is partly down to PND. Anyhow, if anyone can help, I'd appreciate it. I realize me posting is feeding my anxiety but I can't help it. If you can be bothered to get to the end, I'd much appreciate any advice about my DD.
So
Sleep - ok, breastfed, wakes 1-2x
Fine motor - good, immature pincer, grasps at toys, mouths them, flaps hands and twirls feet ALOT, mainly when anxious, happy, wants something
Gross- not pulling to stand, not crawling but drags herself across the floor, sitting well since 6 months, bears weight on legs
Social- babbling, squealing, eye contact- will make contact, not prolonged, not always consistent with those she doesn't know well, seems would rather look at anything else- e.g brightly coloureddistraction in background. Other times, though, eye contact is longer, esp if no other distractions e.g darkened room just before bedtime. Sometimes, she does seem to look at me when I'm not necessarily looking at her, (as though trying to make contact), we have just started to notice an exchange of sounds, she squeals, I squeal, she squeals and she finds this funny. She doesn't always respond to a smile with a smile. When in the right mood, she explores my face. More of an observer in groups, would be described as shy by others. Possibly waves, although I'm not 100%, doesn't clap or imitate really, although I was reading a touch and feel book and she leaned over to touch the bits I was touching. Wouldn't stick tongue out if I did though. Drinks from beaker without being shown. Displays object permanence. Laughs at peek a boo but wouldn't pull blanket over self to play. Loves being 'chased'. Most of the time, pulls her hand away if I try to hold it, except during games and when using me as balance when standing. Grins at a mechanical goose which sings nursery rhymes. Is shy in groups, was wriggling over to me this afternoon at NCT when all the babies were on the mat, wanting to be close to me.
My main concern are the flapping and eye contact as possible early indicators of ASD. There is no family history.
I guess I'm after reassurance really, I think I also need to address my own anxiety soon
Thanks