9 year old skipped taekwondo lesson, lied about it: consequence?

[johnwinstonlennon]

he was supposed to be in taekwondo from 5 to 6. the lessons take place at school, after regular classes finish at 4:40. pupils hang out and have some snacks until different lessons -taekwondo, music, fencing, football etc- start. my son chose taekwondo in first grade and after a few lessons didn't want to go anymore. I pressed -he had behavioural issues at the moment, I thought lessons would help- and he started to like it again. then he got bored again and wanted to take music lessons. I thought that was not a good idea and told him to make the best of music lessons during regular school hours.
anyway, I arrived at school today and he wasn't where he was supossed to be. I then found out that he had been to one of the music lessons. I saw him walking from class, carrying a saxophone case and looking relaxed, he didn't look embarrased at all. I asked him why he was not at his class, he made excuses: "I asked mr x where the sabonim -taekwondo teacher-was and he didn't know, he told me to go to music class instead". right...
sorry for the long post!!! my question is: what consequence should there be? I said 2 days without screens -movies or videos, computer games are not permitted during the week- but now I think that's too soft. the most screen time he gets during the week is 1 hour. anyone?
what I find important to stress is how wrong it is to lie.

I know a few people doing science who are also musicians. They are perfectly normal people, responsible, clever, with families.
Don't be prejudiced by your ex.

Blimey. I have to say that you really need to look at your own stuff. You have been pressing taekwondo on him for three years! He likes and is good at music.

One of the most important things a child can feel is loved for who they REALLY are. Yours is lying so he can do something he enjoys, which is good for him and productive.

And I divorced a druggie musician to marry a black belt in taekwondo. Seriously.

Musicians are not healthy people?! Wow. You're the adult here. You need to take a look at the prejudices and assumptions that you're lumbering him with. They're totally illogical.

Your kid lying is a consequence of you ignoring his wishes and forcing him to carry on doing something he didn't want to do. He tried to tell you. You didn't listen. He didn't make a commitment. You did. You should learn the lesson and let him to music.

op it's quite obvious why he lied. I would have lied in the same position.

Having a relationship where you tell him what to do and he sneaks off to do what he wants, because you don't listen, isn't a good relationship.

No offense OP but its obvious its YOU who have unresolved issues from a failed relationship and you're taking it out on your son. Let him do music ffs
Or he'll really become a junkie

Presumably the consequence will be that he's slightly less good at taekwondo

You don't want him doing music as an extra curricular activity because his father is a musician and a junkie?? What?!

My dd1 is eight and into her music. I pushed her into piano and she opted for violin a year ago. She's rather good at the latter. I did music right the way through to university and wanted her to develop a hobby. Music seems to suit my highly academic, hard-working, perfectionist child. At her Saturday music school there are tons of kids from all backgrounds who seem perfectly normal and hsve perfectly normal parents.

Anyway, to flip this, my dm didn't allow me to do any activity that wasn't 'academic' in case I rotted a few brain cells and mucked up my chances to go to Oxbridge. I managed that all by myself by not putting in the effort at A-Level.

As well as music dd1 does swimming and has tried umpteen sports for fun.