Aarghh! Worst playdate ever!

[3monkeys]

DD (5yrs) went to her friends who are twins to play this pm, DS1 aged 7 went too as he was invited. They have been to ours at half=term and they got on ok. Took about 1/2 hour to settle down, then seemed ok until all hell broke loose! DD and her friend both screaming - DD had hit her because she didn't like the colour of the plate she'd been given!! Then other friend who is a boy hit DD for hurting his sister. DD had huge strop, just about resolved and had said sorry, then same thing happened again. Had to leave DS1 there and bring DD home, DH went for DS later on. Feel so ashamed

(Sorry, sounds very petty to get so upset about something like this but DS1 struggled to make friends and never gets invited anywhere. Don'twant DD to mess it all up!)

you don't have to apologise, you just sound upset for ds1.maybe you could ring the parents and have a chat with them, see if it would be ok for just ds1 to visit for now? i know it's not very constructive advice but didn't want you to feel on your own x

I'm sure the other parents understand that children fall out sometimes.
Maybe you could invite the other children to play next weekend - and your DD will no doubt be fine.
They all have their moments!

Don't feel ashamed by it - not a reflection on your parenting or your dds general behaviour.

Talk to the other mother. It seems to me that most children behave like monsters sometimes and often their parents perceive the behaviour as worse than other parents do because you are more stressed by it.

Could you arrange another playdate at your house and tell dd in no uncertain terms before hand what is expected of her and what will happen if she does this again?

Thankyou for all your replies! Hven't been able to get back on since. DD's general behaviour is terrible at the moment and I'm worried that she's started to hit which they've never got away with and never really done. I suppose I'm concerned that she may behave like this at school or that she'll start to lose friends by being too bossy/in your face! Friends is a big issue in our house cos DS1 doesn't have many!