Traumatised by nursery?

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My dd (aged 2) started nursery 3 weeks ago (2 mornings a week). She gets upset when dh leaves her but is apparently fine once he leaves. But shes become very clingy with us (me especially) and cries when people leave the room (even to go to the loo). At nighttime between 12-3 she screams and screams having just started to sleep through 2-3 nights a week. I'm genuinely worried she's been psychologically scarred by it. But we need her to start nursery as its getting harder and harder to justify only one of us working. Tell me this is normal and she'll be fine???

Bump in desperation

That must be very upsetting for you. I'm no expert, but don't really see how going to nursery could be psychologically scarring, unless something is upsetting her there such as maybe another child not being very nice? What does she say about nursery, and her feelings about it?

It IS a big change at that age and I'm sure that's why her sleep's affected, but it can also be a really positive experience (speaking as someone whose 2yo DD still cries most days when I drop her at nursery but otherwise is clearly thriving). Are you happy with the quality of the nursery?

Is it not night terrors? All of mine had them at that age, really upsetting.

She IS very young and may need more time to settle.
I am sure she is not 'traumatised' and will be fine, but it may take some time.
What do the nursery staff say?

Btw DS4 cried every day when I dropped him off at surgery for the whole 2 years he was there (4x 3 hrs/week) but was fine as soon as I or his dad left and loved actually being there.