Breastfed 11 month old with seperation anxiety

[NinjaMommy]

Just that really. He's all about mummy! I've just gone back to work(only one day a week) and my mum(reluctantly) agreed to have him for the day 8.30-5.
Well, he pretty much screamed non stop all day and nothing consoled him. Nothing! I had to come home on my lunch to feed him.
Any suggestions how we can get past this? He screams if I just go out of the room!
Help... Mum has now said she won't have him again as it was too stressful

I have just gone back to work with a clingy breastfed 12 month old. I work 4 days and she's in nursery. She's getting better each day and is fine when kept busy. It's unfair to force your mum to do childcare if she's reluctant. Have you looked into childminders/ nurseries?

He was born very premature and was very poorly last winter(in intensive care on a ventilator due to bronchiolitis) so I'm a bit neurotic about introducing more germs than necessary. So my mum is the only person I'd feel happy leaving him with.
She doesn't look after either of my other 2 children so this is literally her only 'grandmotherly duty' that she has. She doesn't work, is always saying how much she wants to help... This is all I'm asking for...
I basically need to 'train' the baby by next Thursday to be able to cope without me for a while! If he didn't scream All the time, she'd be less reluctant!

Has she looked after him for short periods? A couple of hours here and there? It must be really difficult when your baby has been so ill, but if she doesn't want to look after him there's nothing you can do.

I know. She's had him a handful of times. Never for more than an hour or so though

She doesn't look after either of my other 2 children so this is literally her only 'grandmotherly duty' that she has. She doesn't work, is always saying how much she wants to help... This is all I'm asking for...

Hahahahaha. You may not trust anyone else, you may want/need to go back to work, you have gone from short 1 hour periods to suddenly a 10 hour day. I think you need to find alternate childcare as if your mum is reluctant now this may cause issues/resentment later. Re duty - she doesn't have to do anything she raised her child now you need to raise yours. You sound very entitled.

Maybe she needs to gradually build that hour up over the next few days?
Did she take him out and about? It's amazing how being out and seeing things can settle a baby. I hope you get things sorted, I was so worried about my baby starting with the childminder.

My DS didn't really like bring left with grandma at that age. For us I think it was because my mum didn't have many ideas or the energy to do things with him- she wanted him to sit quietly or play on his own with some toys while she got on with her own stuff, which just wasn't gonna happen! It also took her time to start noticing what he wanted and responding to him appropriately. Could this be part of the problem? I suggested some groups and activities for them to do together, like going to the park, walks, library rhymetime, and they quickly started having a great time together and I think DS was happy to go with my mum as he knew it meant they were going out to have fun.

The other thing I made an effort to do was go be totally relaxed and happy for my mum to be around and doing things with DS especially when she came to get him or I went to leave him with her. Im sure even at that age he was picking up that I was worried about him not being happy with my mum and he responded to this by not being happy If that makes sense?

Good luck, he will settle down and start being happy to spend time with other people.