I am at the end of my tether, I feel so bad, I have just called my DD a horrible child ?? I understand the terrible twos, my DS is 5, but DD just seems to be far worse than he was. Seems to say/want opposite to everyone else, unreasonable, rude, does nothing she is told, but the worst thing is around nappies. She has done a couple of wees on the potty but says she doesn't want to wear pants etc and doesn't want to use toilet/potty that much unless her brother is so I haven't pushed her, I just say things like 'let me know if you need a wee/poo' or when it's happened I just say 'let me know next time', but have kept it really light and no pressure or chastising. But the real problem is having her bottom changed at all, hates me changing her nappy. When she's done a poo she denies it, totally freaks out when I say it needs changing and won't let me. Depending on her mood and what we're doing, I may leave it for a little bit and then try and suggest it again, sometimes she is fine with it but mostly not. The last 3 days she has gone absolutely mad at me, screaming and shouting at me to leave her alone, telling me she hates me and that she is happy to sit in a dirty nappy and doesn't want it changed. Problem is she gets soooo sore with it unchanged, not to mention it smells and can leak obviously. Have just and a major battle to get this one off her and now she won't let me put a new one on and has run off. I feel so bad for calling her a horrible child and I just told her to go away, so upsetting as I would never talk to anyone lies that, let alone a child I adore....any advice?