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~~~~ I let my kids run about naked a lot and my mother says it's wrong- am i wrong?~~~~

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LadyOfThePoinsettias · 29/11/2006 10:48

ds1 is 16m and loves having his bum out. since switching to cloth nappies- which he easily undoes, he spends a lot of time without a nappy on. i know when he needs to go so can ususally intervene in time- no probs there.
a sofa is being delivered today and i will of course make sure he has a nappy on then. if a plumber has to come round etc he is always covered up.
ds2 is 2months and he has a nappy on most of the time but i do 'air' his bum at least twice a day as i find if they dont get 'aired' their little winkies etc can get sore- mums of boys will know what i mean.
anyhoo, my mother tells me i should not let him be naked/nappiless as much as i do as i will have probs with him when he starts school?!? that is like 5 years away. wont he be dry and wearing pants by then?
am i wrong? i dont want to make him wierd or anything!

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Judy1234 · 30/11/2006 22:35

We always had nudity at home. Some people have silly hang ups about things like that. Just depends on your family and culture. Do what feels right for you.

Edmond · 30/11/2006 22:38

if they have worms because they will spread the eggs all around the house
otherwise NO

JanH · 30/11/2006 22:40

2 of mine were professional nudies (in the rain sometmes ) and 1 an amateur - it peaked at around 2½. (The other wasn't interested )

They didn't strip off at school at all (phew!)

fortyplus · 30/11/2006 22:41

Xenia I'm agreeing with you again - I'm just off to feel my pulse!

madrose · 30/11/2006 22:50

this has made me giggle

esp - green coloured willy
body glitter
twisting willies
streched willies

i just love to see my DD bottom running around - so pinchable she' 20 months

fortyplus · 30/11/2006 22:54

Kids' bums are great, aren't they? I'm not allowed anywhere near my 2 sons' bums now - they're 11 & 13. They still let me rub their backs, though.

mrsnoah · 30/11/2006 23:59

Edmond!

If they have them you're all gonna get 'em anyway!

handlemecarefully · 01/12/2006 00:21

Nude is fine - but I am in the 'spare the delivery man the awkwardness' camp

boomie · 01/12/2006 08:31

My DD's (2 & 5) always strip off at night and put on a dance show naked!! I think it's lovely as they have no inhibitions. In the summer they were always in the garden with nothing on. DD is in Year 1 at school and she has never stripped off and run naked round the classroom

fortyplus · 01/12/2006 08:50

handlemecarefully - me too! I always told mine to get dressed before people came round - it's important that they learn to distinguish between appropriate behaviour with close family > relatives > friends > strangers.

titchy · 01/12/2006 09:35

I had the same with my mum - who geniunely thought there was a problem as dd (then 6 or 7) had no inhibitions about stripping off at home . She also thought it inappropriate that they went to the loo while dh was in the bath. Double . She even canvassed her friends who said it wasn't normal that a 6 or 7 year old was happy to have her bits on show at home. .

Tough I said - they know when to cover up, all about which bits are private and which bits are not, and as a family we are quite comfortable with the kids seeing us naked and vice versa. Haven't dared tell her that dh and I sleep naked and if one of the dcs are ill in the night and end up in our bed we do not bother putting PJs or pants on! Social servcies would have a field day I'm sure

arsenelupin · 01/12/2006 15:28

DD (nearly 5, mind) strips off when she plays with any other kid her age. I'm not bothered for her but I think some other parents might get the wrong idea about what we get up to at home, so I do try to get her to cover up. She was never encouraged to go naked in our old house (too many draughts!) so I wouldn't listen to your mum - some kids are little naturists at heart.

cheekymonk · 01/12/2006 16:10

I have noticed that when my mum has a bath with my ds, she puts a flannel over her "bits". I never do, but I wonder if I should? Ds is only 22 months old...

Koshka1984 · 01/12/2006 16:15

i was inspired by this yesterday and my LO had nudie time...but it was a bit cold for him i think.
he had a great pee though, i thought it was funny but the cat, who was watching at a safe distance didnt

izzybiz · 01/12/2006 17:43

We havent got a skidmark problem yet as i stll wipe her bum for her!
Also we have leather sofas anyway!!

NotAnOtter · 01/12/2006 17:48

let the willies run free thats what i say...i got told off on here for posting a pic of ds (age 3) naked....maybe i am too chilled!

mrsratty · 01/12/2006 17:52

Mine are 2 and 5 they love being naked though only in our house or my mums.

GodRestYeMerryPebblemum · 01/12/2006 18:31

My 3yr old is forever stripping off, in fact he has just run into the room totally starkers saying he doesnt like his clothes. I think ive got a future naturist on my hands I dont think there is anything wrong with it as long as its in the privacy of our own home. Dh likes walking around in just his boxers so I think ds2 gets it off of him

FrannyandZooey · 01/12/2006 18:37

I think my son's bare bottom is probably the most beautiful thing I have ever seen

honestly

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LadyOfThePoinsettias · 01/12/2006 22:54

so glad you all agree with me.
my mum doesn't have a problem with their nakedness, she genuinely thought it may be a problem later that's all. i think when me and my bros were little mothers were advised to dress us i guess as much as poss.? i dont know.
Anyway, there is nothing i enjoy better that seeing their little cherubic bodies. even ds2, only 10weeks, squeals with delight when i whip his napper off. his little legs go like the clappers! lol
i had to coax ds1 (16m) into a nappy for bed tonight. he had a bath then insisted on getting out and legging it, dripping wet, before i could even get the towel on him! lol he especially likes to lean his naked back on the dog's fur.
i agree with those of you who say about the delivery men etc, i cover them up then, especially when some are advised not to enter if naked children are inside. it's a bit sad i think.

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Skribble · 01/12/2006 22:58

My DS nearly 10yrs will happily walk about naked when getting ready for bed or going for a shower, DD is the same. We don't all walk about naked the whole time but we don't feel the need to hide if changing or going to the bathroom.

I know there will be an time when both of them will be a bit more modest and want us to be a bit more modest around them, fair enough.

Oh and if we had a plumber in we would be dressed .

HaggisSupper · 02/12/2006 01:42

My DS (18 months) and DD (7 months) are naked frequently. Not had too many issues with this, unless you count the time DS came over to me and handed me what I thought was a bit food. I took and it was only when I looked at it I realised it was a poo he had done [yuckyuckyuck].

It gives them more freedom though. Nappies must be really restricting.

PinkTinsel · 02/12/2006 10:56

dd loves nappy free tiome butlike expat i'm still hyperventilating at the last bill that came in the door so heating isn't on enough here to let her as much as she'd like, and ds pees every 10 minutes and getscross if her doesn't have a dry blanket put under him immediatly so he can only be nappy free til i run out of blankets and it certainly doesn't save on washing!

agree it does help with potty awareness though, even though she doesn't have extraordinary amounts of bare bum time dd has done 2 poos in the potty and know when she needs to poo and pee. (she'd use the potty more but she's too impatient to stay sitting on it)

and yes, my cat lives on my kitchen counter as theres no where else he can escape dd he's there no munching on some chicken! but i clean the counters at lweast twice a day so we're more likely to catch something from him by cuddling him tbh

Mummymonster · 02/12/2006 11:36

Ds is 3 and knows how to take his pants off but is reticent to get them back on. He runs round the comunal yard naked or wsithout pants. I make polite aqpologies to visitors to the house (tradesmen, postie, milkman, delivery drivers) but always suffix it with a '3 yr olds, what can you do?' or 'if you can't get away with it at that age when can you?'

I think those adults who have a problem with toddler nudity have serious issues.

newgirl · 02/12/2006 20:41

yeah toddler nudity is sweet and i think it is ok up to a point. I actually remember my mum telling me (i guess i was 7 or 8) that she remembered me running around naked and I cringed! So maybe enjoy this lovely innocent age but don't bring it up when they are older!

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