am i dealing with this wrong?

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and ideas to change if i am please

six year old boy always been difficult behaviour wise always the squeaky wheel i love this boy to death he is so funny deadpan jokes funny dances etc he is a good boy but he never stops with the mouth for example can i have my ds? answer yes five minutes later can i have my ds? ive told you already yes! five minutes (or less) so i can have my ds? (fucking hell) YES please can i have my ds yes mooooooom can i have my ds YES so in the end i implemented this rather harsh plan accept yes and stop asking or i will say no if you do this again...........and ive just had to say no he is pissed beyond the max here and i have to say when he gets pissed the world knows all about it he grumps strops throws things slams doors chucks toys (he threw his laptop across the room the other day because he didn't stop chattering about going on minecraft and he ran out of time and didn't actually get to go on minecraft) he bullies his brother and sister he attacked his sister for no reason yesterday and myself and his brother today

he is just so full on and aggressive ive had him assessed for sn the school disagreed with me (he behaviour is good there) and the doctor although he initially agreed he was doing some repetitive behaviours (he has a hand scrub he does along with other stuff the doctor saw this) agreed with the school so there is no special needs no need for him to squeak and repeat constantly he just won't accept yes and god help me if i say no!

any ideas?

When you say yes he can have his DS, why don't you give it to him?

he goes to get it from his drawer then wanders back and asks me again

Hmm, that does seem strange (although I have no experience, I'm afraid).

What happens if you sit down with him, and get him started on it? Is he then OK, or does he wander off after a few minutes? I'd be inclined to try that (and maybe try taking him back to it a couple of times if he does wander) just to get more information.

What is his attention like normally? Is he ever able to concentrate on something for a period of time?

Or could it be that what he really wants is your attention? What happens if instead you offer to involve him in whatever you're doing? (Eg if you're making dinner, he's old enough to help with chopping)

he concentrates well he just seems to like to ask repeat questions im at a loss as to how to stop it if i was saying no i could understand him asking again but im saying yes its so confusing to be honest!

he might just be wanting my attention his dad and i split last year and when he goes to his house he shoves him on electrical's or in front of the tv there is no communication over there me personally im like ds DS! come here and see this DS time for a break let's go and do that etc

perhaps i haven't been doing enough of that lately