Friday Treat? WWYD?

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So I told my 6yr old DD that if she was good in the mornings at getting ready for school that we would go to the toyshop and get a small treat today. Her idea to go to the toyshop. Well she hasn't been perfect in the mornings but 75% good (we have introduced a new morning routine this school year). BUT she (and her sister aged 3) have been awful at school pickup this week, arguing, shouting/screaming, tantrums etc etc. So much so that yesterday we all ended up in tears.

Skip to the end... should she get a treat or not? TIA

I'd say yes because you the linked the consequence to morning behaviour. If you don't give her the treat she'll never believe you again and it won't work.

Yes, because you said the treat was going to be a reward for being good in the mornings, and she did that.

Next week / time the treat can be for being good in the mornings and at pick-up. Then you can award it accordingly.

Thank you LillyBugg

It would certainly be easier to get her the treat, otherwise we are going to have the mother of all meltdowns at school pick up today!

So maybe I should write off pick ups for this week and make a plan to tackle that one next week?

cross posts Maisie

I just feel annoyed that she has been badly behaved and still gets a treat. I shall have to make it clear to her! The spend limit will be the minimum possible because I'm not feeling well disposed towards her just now. Although I do appreciate that the first week in a new class can be tough for children.

Look at it as an investment in her behaviour and your own sanity! If you get her a treat she's meh about, she won't try hard for the next treat.

Get her a decent treat and make sure she knows it's a reward for her good behaviour in the mornings, as you had agreed. Make her feel she's achieved something and succeeded.

Then, later, in a separate conversation, say that the pick-up behaviour has to change, and discuss what the reward / punishment for that will be.

It sounds like she responded well to your request for good behaviour in the mornings which is a great sign. Children are just a bit literal about these things!

No I wouldn't! I would tell her the behaviour after school was so appalling yesterday it's cancelled the chance of a treat even though you've been proud of the mornings so far.

I also wouldn't use the toy shop as a reward for ordinary good behaviour of save it for a really special occasion. A small pack of sweets or an ice cream after school is a big enough treat for what you describe

Thanks for the input everyone. I did get them both a small treat.

Start again fresh next week.