DD wets herself everyday at school

[Bananaknickers]

She started school full time last week and has come out with wet clothed every day. Has anyone else experienced this. She will do it at home to if she is there all day. At school she sits in the wet clothes all day.She won't even tell the teacher she has done it. She isn't upset about doing it either

I know it sounds daft, but have you asked her why she won't tell the teacher she needs to go, rather than just telling her she needs to ask, IYSWIM?

She says she is scared to ask?? the teacher and myself have both sat her down and asked her why. She does it and home too. I have tried rewards ect have never shouted at her. I have explained that she will become sore and will smell. I don't know what to do

She is still in nappies at night too

Have you ruled out any reason for it with the GP?

thanks Nataliejane that was maybe what I was thinking but what could it be. She is not in pain

I don't know really, children can just lose control, I don't think that would hurt.

I know you said she is still in nappies at night, but is she always wet int he morning? Or does she ever wake in the night for a wee?

no she sleeps right through and her nappy is never dry

I think I would take her to the GP, just to cover all angles really.

I don't really know what else to suggest, I know with DS he was a nightmare but then one day it all just seemed to click into place with him and he has never (touch wood) had an accident since, but he was a lot younger than school age.

Good luck, hopefully someone a bit more helpful will have an idea you could try soon

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By all means have her checked for a low grade uti perhaps, but I don't think the night time is the same issue. Many kids still need nioght nappies at 5/6 and dr's won't consider it as a problem until 7. Is she prompted to go at school ? You could take her on arrival and then her teacher or the TA could remind her at hourly intervals or so. Could you make sure she has no problem with the facilities themselves such as the doors and height of toilet/basin. I do think it could be a habit now , on the back of initial accidents due to a change in routines , but somehow you need to break the cycle. May be use a reward chart for dry days ?

Advice re: bedwetting has changed. It always used to be left till 7 but more recent research (which your GP should be familiar with) indicates that by this age the behaviour can become ingrained. It's better to start dealing with it by age 6. As adults we all produce a hormone that concentrates our urine at night. Babies don't do this, which is why they wee at night even when potty trained. By age 6 they should be producing it, but lots don't, in which case it can be given as a nasal spray called 'Desmopressin'.

is there any chance she is ready to stop wearing nappies at night yet. she may be getting confused in thinking she can wee herself at night cos of the nappy and forgets and does it during the day. whereas with no nappy at night she will have to get used to going herself. kids can be so cruel. if there is nothing medicially wrong maybe you can get rid of the nappies as a start.

My 3 1/2 yr old DD doesw this too. It isn't every day, but it is more often than not. NannyL typed a good post on this thread yesterday.

Hi Bananaknickers

has she onlyy just started doing this? My daughter is the same but she was only pottytrained (long story)months before she started reception, for a lonf time I thought it was about starting school, but she's now in y1 and we still have the problem, she has also recenl decided she doesn't want to wear nappies at night, and we have to wake her up everynight or she wets herself (sometimes twice a night)...lots of washing in our household!!

Have you tried sending her to the loo ever 2 hours? this is waht I was alwas told to do, to train them. I know EXACTLYY how ou feel, dd1 has been having this problem since august 2006 and I am desperate!!

she's been checked by a pead and phsicallyy there's nothing wrong. Apparently some children are just like this and it takes time for their bladder to learn.
You can have a look at this website

Also mayybe yyou could ask the teacher to gently remind her to got to the toilet at break times, and provide her with some spare knickers to keep in her bag. (this is what I do)

Best of luck, I know how difficult it is, my dd is so stubborn and refuses to go, and I'm worried otehr children will start to notice and make fun of her for this....

Hi Bananaknickers,
my 2D started school this September and at least 3 times a week she's wet herself.I don't understand why myself as she does'nt do it at home, BUT she still wears nappies at night too,I spoke to her teacher and they ask her to go to the toilet every 2 hrs and if she refuses the physically take her to the toilet and wait for her to try. Too me my D2 is lazy. So i came up with an idea, When its one of her friends birthday's/party's i told her she cannot go if she wets herself during school. Now it's near Christmas i told her if she doesn't go to the toilet and wets herself Father Christmas will take away one present.I know this is cruel but touch wood it's really working. My D1 was out of nappies both day and night by 14months and never wet herself .

I've had a few problems with my DD wetting at school as well. She is 4 and started reception in Sept. She has been dry during the day since 19 months and dry at night since 3 years, but she wet at school 4 times last week. Teacher says she won't come in at playtime cos she doesn't want to miss anything and I think she's right. I too have started to punish - although they say you shouldn't - have taken away tv watching and it worked yesterday - first dry day for a week! Hooray!

Not during the day, but has started again at night after being dry for ages

My dd1 went through a phase of this and in a similar way wasn't bothered - it passed, don't worry.

I feel I must make comment here. My eldest daughter has never been able to stay dry day or night. She has never potty trained and is completely doubly incontinent. She was seeing the GP Practice nurse from about 3 and then when nothing worked we were refered to the paediatric continence service. She was prescribed pads for the day and nappies for the night because we were having to pick her up early almost daily from school because of accidents.
We have seen about every health professional known to man and after 6 months of councelling sessions with CAMHS they think she may have ASD.
The point is that you wouldn't know there is anything wrong if not for the incontinence. She is a bright, friendly and well spoken 8 year old girl now and through years of charts, plans and conflicting professional advice ( the problem with seeing 3 different services at once) nothing has ever changed.
I am just trying to explain that rewards and punishments are not the way if you don't know what the problem is. We still don't know what the problem is but due to our relaxed attitude my daughter has been relaxed too.
My younger daughter and son have potty trained without incident so that has been a relief!