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My 2 year old is a fucking monster.

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DextersMistress · 05/09/2015 19:58

Tantrums over the tiniest thing, screaming all the time, stamping his feet, defiance.

Everyday is a battle. His favourite word is no, I swear if he was pfb I'd have an only child.

I know it's normal, I know he's testing boundaries but fuck I'm exhausted with him.

Sigh. Wine anyone?

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nottheOP · 05/09/2015 20:02
Wine

Cheers! Thank god for bedtime

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DextersMistress · 05/09/2015 20:04

Cheers not

Can hear him chattering on the monitor, at least the screeching has stopped Smile

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Lucked · 05/09/2015 20:12

My youngest is almost 2 and the same, quite likes the word mine as well as no, mostly whilst holding tightly on to the toy her big brother was playing with. If I even give her a stern look she is hysterical and she will try and push and hit me etc it's exhausting and meal times are the worst.

But I know it will pass, my 3 yo is delightful and polite.

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DextersMistress · 05/09/2015 20:18

Wine for you lucked

Yep, 4 yo can push his luck sometimes but 'the look' works on him.

Ds2 just couldn't give a shit!

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gamerchick · 05/09/2015 20:20

Yeah I look back and shudder.
My 8 yr old has asd and even though he has his moments he's an utter joy rather than do any 2 yr old.

3 yr olds are Attila the Huns but it passes Grin

Yanno though the harder the young child the easier the teen - apparently. Something I can say with my eldest and 15 yr old to be correct so far Wink

imwithspud · 05/09/2015 20:23

I hear ya, my nearly 3 year old DD1 is similar. She has started wanting to do everything herself, which is fantastic. I'm all for encouraging independence, but when she comes running into the kitchen and starts having a tantrum because I shut the fridge door when she wanted to be the one to do it I can't help but be a little Hmm about the situation. It is normal and it does pass, doesn't make it any less exhausting though.

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DextersMistress · 05/09/2015 20:38

An easy teen sounds great Grin

The fridge door thing just describes ds to a tee.

'Noooooo mummy MY do ittttttt' especially brushing his teeth!

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NationMcKinley · 05/09/2015 22:21

YANBU (even through not AIBU). Two year olds are horrid. DS3 is 2.9 and an absolute arse. He kicked me in the shins today when I took the cheese grater off him. He was menacing DS1 (8!!) with it. He spends about 10 hours a day being a shit and then 20 minutes being so adorable you forgive him. It's all part of his master plan.

Send gin.

slightlyconfused85 · 06/09/2015 06:45

I hear you. DD is 2.10 and loses her shit if I do ANYTHING that she wanted to do. This includes opening and closing various doors, turning on the bath taps, hanging out the washing, giving the baby a bottle. Trouble is I dont know which bits I'm allowed to do. She is also inclined towards telling me I'm making her cross....
She starts pre school next week. Can't wait!

MrsPeel1 · 06/09/2015 07:06

Mine is 'the little despot'. 2.9. Still doesn't sleep through. What joy!

lanbro · 06/09/2015 07:09

Dd2 is also a monster, almost 2 she knows exactly what she's doing! She purposely does everything she knows she shouldn't and gives a look of triumph as she's misbehaving. Fiercely independent it takes an age to get ready to go anywhere as she has to do everything herself, although the independence has resulted in her already being potty trained, small mercies!

But she is adorable and during tantrums at least says 'pleeeeaaseee mummy pleeeeaaseee'!

SofiaAmes · 06/09/2015 07:10

There is hope. My dd pretty much screamed for the first few years and then then complained and annoyed for another few years. BUT, now at 12 she is the most delightful, enthusiastic, well-behaved child. She is still high energy and has 2000 projects on the go at any one time and talks incessantly. She was tested as highly gifted and is talented at everything she puts her mind to. I think some kids just have to grow into themselves. She just had too much going on inside of her to manage with the developmental tools available to her at 2 or 4 or 6 or 8 and her energy and thoughts just exploded out through any hole they could find (which was mostly screaming and talking when she was younger). Now when she has an idea she can execute it, pretty much on her own. When she has a tune inside her head, she goes on Youtube and teaches herself how to play piano so that it can come out. When she wants to eat cake, she goes on YouTube and teaches herself how to bake and makes the cake.

Definitely suggest gin (or sake, in my case) to get you through until they grow into their skin.

ipswichwitch · 06/09/2015 07:16

Oh thank god it's not just us. 21mo DS2 is exactly the same - 10hours a day being a shit then the cute 20min during which all is forgiven (he's just so damn gorgeous in that 20mins, which is just as well as otherwise he'd be living in the garage by now!)

He's graduated from biting to hair pulling - I will be bald by my next birthday at this rate. He shrieks like a banshee at some perceived slight at least 20 times a day. I honestly have no idea what sets him off half the time. Seems to be things like actually giving him his dinner when he's hungry, or giving him the cereal to put in his bowl, like he asked to do.

DS1 (almost 4) is also pushing some boundaries at the minute, but he's only usually like that now when he's really tired (crappy sleeper), although we had out share of tantrums with him

Between constantly refereeing the pair of them, getting woken several times a night by DS1, then DS2 who's currently up for the day at 5-5.30, I'm bloody exhausted. I'm praying you're right about the easy teen thing, because mine are on track to being the most polite, courteous and fabulous teens ever!!!

Much more Wine, strong Brew and Cake needed here!

ipswichwitch · 06/09/2015 07:27

Oh yes, DS2 knows when he's about to do something he shouldn't. He gives you that cheeky little sideways glance (presumably to see if I'm watching) then just cracks on with whatever mischief he's got planned anyway.

The pair of them never stop chattering on either so I have an almost permanent headache. DS2 just gets louder and more shrieky when we can't understand what he's trying to tell us, so some of this behaviour must be due to frustration .
Just like if he's trying to do something, like opening a bottle or whatever, and he can't manage it within 5 seconds, he starts shrieking then it gets launched across the room, and his finale is to throw himself down onto the floor accompanied with yet more shrieking [sigh]

slithytove · 06/09/2015 07:34

DS is 2 and a half and a right old trial. Tantrums, tears, possessiveness, refusal to nap or go to bed making it all 100 times worse.

Thank god I'm not alone.

slithytove · 06/09/2015 07:35

And I have a banshee one year old. Our house is HARD. And loud.

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DextersMistress · 06/09/2015 13:52

Well hopefully we'll all have angel teens or else we'll be after gamerchick Grin

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PumpkinPie2013 · 06/09/2015 13:56

Sympathies to everyone! My ds is 21 months and although he's lovely a lot of the time, he has tantrums involving screaming, kicking, hitting and trying to grab my glasses over the slightest thing - getting dressed, going in/out of the car/house/bath etc. The other day he asked for a cracker so I gave him one, then he threw a fit because he didn't want it Confused

I love him to bits but my god he's hard work at times.

My saving grace is he generally sleeps well.

Nursery say he's an angel Envy

MilchandCookies · 08/09/2015 11:56

Owner of two small monsters here, too.

DD, 3.4 yrs, and DS, 19 mo, have me currently in tears. This thread is helping though.

The screaming tantrums, constant whinging and refusal to do anything I want is wearing me down.

When does it get easier, exactly? And any tips on coping while it's hard? I end up leaving the room because I get so wound up. How do you stay calm and in control when it's non-bloody-stop? I'm sure it wasn't this bad a few months ago Sad

Cheesymonster · 12/09/2015 19:27

Same here. Glad I found this thread. DD is 2.11 and the last few weeks I feel like I'm really not coping. I get so angry with her, she does everything described above. Just had a week away and I could have happily left her in the airport on the way back, I lost count of the number of tantrums she had. Potty training has been a disaster and I feel like a failure. Thinking of going back to the gp - I was on anti depressants when she was very young but came off them. She's now in bed with no dinner and no story. She never sleeps through and wakes up at six. And yet when she got in bed she looked me straight in the eye and said I love you.

Wine all round.

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DextersMistress · 13/09/2015 11:31

Flowers cheesy

This too shall pass.

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Lj8893 · 13/09/2015 11:35

I have an almost 2yr old, she's very defiant. Her tantrums are getting worse, she had a legs kicking, fists banging on the floor one the other day. It's going to get worse isn't it? Sad

Cheesymonster · 13/09/2015 11:41

Thank you DextersMistress

She laid face down in the middle of the airport slapping and kicking the floor. We were the family from hell.

johnImonlydancing · 13/09/2015 19:34

My 3 year old's the same, as was just saying on another thread. we went on holiday this summer, on the last day I walked out of a cafe leaving 11 euros worth of food paid for and uneaten because he was having a screaming tantrum in the middle of the cafe floor. :( (It was cake. I like cake.)

johnImonlydancing · 13/09/2015 19:37

And every. single. word. is a whine, or a complaint. If you take him to the park it's 'Why isn't there a slide?' If you offer him ice-cream it's 'Why isn't there strawberry?' Is there an [aaargh] emoticon?