My little girl is having a tough time atm and I feel a bit useless

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She has settled in to school happily and there's nothing I can see might have triggered this but she has not been herself all week, she's been very teary and subdued, I've tried gently talking about anything that might be worrying her at different times of day but she's says nothings wrong.

Yesterday she burst in to tears with my mum and said she wanted me (they were having lunch) dm said she was unconsolable (sp?) but dm couldn't work out what was wrong. I spoke to her last night and she just said an owl woke her up in the night.

On the surface she is very happy but something must be bothering her for her to just have these little crying episodes. poor kid.

my dd is the same at the moment. i think hse is just tired. its her first time full time at school. hope your dd is ok x

My ds3 is really wobbly at the moment and when I dropped my lot off at school this morning there were a few tears from some other children.

I think they are all knackered. It's a long term and the next few weeks tend to get crazy with Christmas plays and parties and the like.

Do you think your dd might be tired, or maybe about to get a bug or something?

have thought it might be a bug manifesting itself.. it's reassuring that others are the same. She was a new starter in September, are yours?

yes dd started in september.

wee soul.

my ds has started school and some days he just doesn't want to go. I think it's a big shock to their wee systems. Tiredness and the general hustle and bustle of scool doesn't help.

mine are wobbly at the moment - I think it's tiredness and they've just got over an awful bug (croup and then a chesty cough)

perhaps a few days of R&R and long morning cuddles in bed with you?

I agree I think with the tiredness...has she been full time at school? Has she had any days off sick?

I think it is highly likely she is just exhausted, sounds like she would benefit massively from a couple of days off and just resting and having attention from mum!

I kept DS off two days this week; he has had a nasty cold but could have gone back yesterday; but I thought a day of rest was what his system needed....

she's only doing mornings and transferred from almost full time nursery.. saying that I understand that just change can be tiring at some point.

She normally perfers my mum to me so I know something isn't right if she want's me instead.

How long is it until christmas break? We have a busy weekend planned but might aim for a quiet one next week just me and her.

we break up on the 20th

yes, just over three weeks to go for most schools I think.

Maybe it's the change from Nursery to school? Alot more is expected in terms of independence it seems to me; and less adults about to help so more interaction with peers; all pretty exhausting when you're doing it for the first time.

I think sometimes I try and get her to be quite independent at home as well.. she's a great kid (I know I'm biased but she is) feel for her being upset over nothing.

Christmas break will do her the world of good I think.

TIRED

school is a massive jump from nursery and I don't think just mornings makes a difference

even dd1 is knackered and she is in Yr 2!

baby her and take it easy at the weekends

I agree with everyone else, she may just be tired. DD1's teacher mentioned this morning how tired the children were (in Y1), how tired she was, how long it was until the end of term and how much they had to fit in before then.

Another teacher I know has said that the last three weeks or so before the end of the Christmas term are the toughest of the whole year. Apparently it's the combination of a long term, dark days with more winter to come, the first term for the Yr R children and the manic Christmas activities that most schools undertake.

this is where private school wins out

dd2 finishes in two weeks, poor dd1 has to slog on until the 20th

yes it's reasurring to hear that it probably is just tiredness.

How do you get a 4yo to stop??