controlled crying

[jacobliam]

anyone else getting ready to do this or just done it?
tonight is the night for ds2. would be nicr to have a companion!!
Laura

Was just saying on another thread and going to have to do this. When are you strting? how do you do it - will def join you.

Will be starting tomorrow with his first nap i think. reason being he will cry for quite a bit on the first few and id rather it be during the day than at night. Plan is to leave him for about 2 mins then check and reassure. then leave and double the time before going back in again.
Attempted it a couple of weeks ago, but he got bronchilitis so had to abandon it .
They say generally after 2-3 nights they are doing a lot better at sleeping ds2 is 7 mnts so young enough to learn quick!

How old is yours? Whats your plan? nice to have some company!
Laura

oh crikey I mis read you - but will still join you! My DD is 2yrs and 3 months and getting out of cot so now in bed and now not abe to get her to go to sleep - she ends up in bed with me every night.

DH to be works down south so doing it on my own. Will start tomorrow night.

Hi, went through the same with ds1 at the same ahe, had to lay in his bed with him every night til he went to sleep usually took about 45 mins. then when i found out i was pregnant i decided enough was enough.
Here is what i did. Put him to bed and read a story, then give him a kiss and say night night darling. walk out.
He came out again so i just said night night tucked him in and walked out again. he came out again and put him back and tuck him in saying nothing and walk out.
Did that las bit about 15 times with a fair amount of crying but he gave in. Did the same when he woke up again in the night. Within 3 nights he was doing a lot better.
It is hard work but so worth it. He is now 3 i read him a story give him a kiss and he goes to sleep of his own accord. It might be worth getting some nursery rhymes to play on a tape/cd player. Ds1 loves having them on at night.

I wish you all the luck, it will be hard, esp on your own but just think in a week you could have your sleep and bed back!! another thing to remember is that when he is crying it is becuase he is realising that you have the control back.

If you can try and explain to him what the new routine will be. i never didi this as i thought it was pointless but i wish i had now, i think it would have been easier on him, not so much of a shock.

Laura

Hi jacobliam,
I started last night too! Ds is 8 months and will only go back to sleep if I bf him or cuddle him to sleep, which I usually do.
I let him cry for about 45 mins on and off last night, but I gave in - how crap am I !
He got in such a state though, it seems really cruel, will try again when I get more will power.
Hope you did better than me.

hi, i started it this morning he cries for 10 mins and went off and slept fot 2 hours!!! usually only 30 mins!

Brilliant JB, sounds like you have cracked it already!!