My daughter disowns me when at other people's houses...

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My DD is 19 months and anytime I take her to grannies or aunties or even just to friends, she won't let me anywhere near her. Not to change her nappy, feed her, put her coat on, anything! She always wants whoevers house we are at, to do it. "Granny do it" "Granpa do it" Etc... I wouldn't mind this so much (I get to have a cup of tea and read the paper!) but my sister has just had a baby and my DD can't understand that auntie can't lift her etc... and I just seem to have no authoritiy outside of my own home, so when Im telling DD to come away from baby or NOT to sit in the new babies bouncy chair, she won't listen, unless it is coming from someone else!

When we are at home, it's completely the same for my DH. Then it's "mummy do it, mummy do it." I mean Im really pleased that she isn't the clingy type but is this normal? Is there anything i can do?

my ds was like this till recently (he's just turned 2) He's still not clingy, but expresses a preference for me if he's hurt or sad or just if I've been away too long.

I've got used to it now, and am pleased that he is a confident child (I never was), but it did get to me sometimes.

Don't have any advice really but just to say mine was similar.

This is pretty normal. Just be glad she's not holding onto your leg, not letting anyone else near her!

Is she always with you? Or can you let Granny and Granpa take care of her for a few hours here or there?

ooo lucky you, wish my ds would leave me alone at friends so i could relax a bit.enjoy it while you can

enjoy it while it lasts, snailspace! gives you a breather! are you worried it looks bad in front of other people? i only say that because when my DD1 was around that age i was convinced she preferred nana to me and was doubly convinced my mum thought it too!

Thank you for your messages. I know I should relax and enjoy having the freedom a bit more but my hearts in my mouth at the moment, with DD around sisters new baby.DD is pretty well behaved but she doesn't understand things. (such as being too big for the babys chair!)

Yes I am worried what it looks like to other people, particuarly that it looks like I have no control over her! I just hope no situation arises where she really needs discipling because I fear she won't listen a jot!

Ive always worked on/off (self-emp) since she was 6 weeks and so Grandma and sister and DP usually juggle babycare. I think this is why she is so sociable!

I used to worry what other people thought, especially family, then I found out. They are thinking 'look at that happy, confident child over there, her mother's done a great job'.

Seriously that is what they are thinking. And sometimes 'god I wish mine would leave me alone for a minute'.

It can be hard I know, but its because she is confident in you that she is able to go off.