Do you have a child who is never happy with what you for them ? Who is always onto the next thing they can get out of you ?

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My dd (8) is like that and because of that I find difficult being around her. She is always asking for things, she is never satisfied with what she has. To give you examples : I take her out for a movie, where she also got pick and mix and a drink, she asked if we could go and buy a my little pony at the end of the movie during the credit ! We are going to take her to eurodisney for 2 days : her reaction : why don't we stay 5 days ? I'm taking her away to see a friend in Italy : her reaction when I told her we were going for 4 days : of why don't we stay 2 weeks ? I have many examples like that...she is never satisfied with anything. It makes me resenting her. Anyone can relate ?

What do you do when she says these things?

I say no, I spend my life saying no and explaining why I say no

I feel like a shit mother because she must know/feel that I resent her.

What about instead of saying no or anything negative you say something positive like "aren't you lucky to be going on such a trip?" "Can you imagine some people never get a chance to visit places abroad"

I'm sure someone will be along with better advice!

yep my DS is the same.

You don't resent her. Just her behaviour.

Why don't we stay 2 weeks? Because we're not made of money and if you'd rather then we just won't go at all.

God I feel like this about my dd at times too. She can be such a brat. She is younger (almost 6) every time we go to a shop she says will you buy me something? She doesn't even care what it is she just wants to buy buy buy. I don't think it's anything I've done I almost always say no.
She seems so unappreciative of the nice things we do sometimes (not always)

My dd also the same. She even says we are poor!! I'm a lone parent but she never goes without . She's also 8

Do you give her pocket money? OK, it wouldn't help with the trips abroad . But for things like the my little pony, you can suggest that she can buy it out of her pocket money when she's saved up enough. The process of planning what she really wants to buy and saving up for it might help her to appreciate that things have a cost.

As a child who grew up with these EXACT behavior(S), here is my input.. FYI, MY MELTDOWNS BECAME SO BAD (INCLUDED SLAMING DOORS), MY PARENTS TOOK MY BEDROOM DOOR OFF.
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IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING GRATEFUL OR NOT.... the things/places/time are her way of keeping you engaged/interacting with her....having time with you! Keep in mind if her goal is to have time with you it's most likely that she is not seeing her behaviour the same as you are.

In regards to always wanting something buy buy buy, but FIRST,, she has to donate items that she has not used/played with etc for the past 6 months.

Also, shes at the age, where your daughter can start learning that things dont grow on trees.

My last recommendation, sign your daughter up to volunteer at the local foster center/food drive for homeless (mother and children)....