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Potty training at 8 months - is she crazy?

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fee77 · 07/05/2004 09:45

I met up with some other mums yesterday, and one announced that she was going to start PT her DD at 8 months. I am now in a blind panic as i thought i could leave this till 18 months. Should i start now? I would love to hear from any one who has managed it this early

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Azure · 07/05/2004 09:51

Eight months is just laughable. The woman obviously has no idea.

toddlerbob · 07/05/2004 09:51

She sounds a little insane. I think that's too late for elimination communication (there are some previous threads on this) and very early for potty training.

I sit ds on the potty in the morning and before his bath (he's 14 months) but this is because he is very regular and I use washable nappies and so it's 2 I don't have to deal with. I certainly don't call this potty training and I would be embarrased to mention it in "real life" in case people thought I was a pushy mother.

kiwisbird · 07/05/2004 09:55

18mths?
Thats as much as dream as 8 mths with most babies!
I left my ds to 2yrs 9 mths he was dry day and night within 2 weeks and has never had an accident!

emmatmg · 07/05/2004 09:55

8 MONTHS!
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

juniper68 · 07/05/2004 09:56

I wonder if she's had pressure from her mum or MIL?

Northerner · 07/05/2004 09:58

My ds was 2 on 5th April, and I'm not contamplating it for a nother few months yet.

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fee77 · 07/05/2004 09:59

Oh thanks, i though there was something else i had to read up on! I have learnt so much in the past 7 months its scary!

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fee77 · 07/05/2004 10:02

Apparently she was potty trained at 8 months and wlking by 11 months. A very advanced baby. My dd can't roll at 7 months, and sits when she can be bothered, so the idea of potty training her was a little scary. Also she is very irregular so would spend a lot of time on the pot!

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Hulababy · 07/05/2004 10:05

I don't think it can work - not in the proper sense of potty training. Yes, the mum can run about with a potty following her DD's every move and instincts, but not what I would call potty training. To be honest I think 18 months would be considered very early still too. Full bladder control isn't really developed enough until 18 months at the earliest, and then the child needs to be able to help with undressing, taking initiative, understanding, etc.

I have just potty trained my DD last weeknd. She was 24 months and, as she had more control and a very godd understanding of what was required. She could respond to sticker rewards, etc. As a result she is now completely dry in the day time after 7 days, and we haven't had any accident since Sunday (just the one accident on that the 3rd day I think). If you leave it until they are ready, it'll be much kess hassle and less stressful for all parties involved IME

carla · 07/05/2004 10:09

I left trying with mine till they started saying 'Aaaagh - I've done a wee in my nappy'. Think they were about 3.

kiwisbird · 07/05/2004 10:10

advanced my arse, my son walked at 9 mths talked sentences at under a yr and is at age 10 one of the brightest kids around, he however never toilet trained til later part of his 3rd yr ie: 2 yrs 10 mths by time he was finished, some babies do train earlier, mostly girls than boys. But generally they tell you when they want training, give you pretty unmissable signs.

LIZS · 07/05/2004 10:12

rofl She'll learn - the hard way !!

gold123 · 07/05/2004 10:14

Far to early. My dd taught herself at 2yrs 4mths, just as we had our ds, she wanted to act all grown up and impress us, she was dry day and night instantly with no accidents. DS was 2yrs and 6mths and also with no hassle. A friend of mine tried her daughter at 18mths, was very pushy and it took ages, even now she has accidents as she is 4. She made such a big deal of wanting her dd to perform, that now she even wees to get attention. The child knows when they are ready to do it, if you push too soon, it will only take longer.

roisin · 07/05/2004 10:15

IMO starting training early just means it takes a LOT longer, and involves an awful lot of clearing up mess and doing extra laundry! Both my boys were completely dry within a week of starting training, when they were two. We had friends who 'faffed around with potties and bare bottoms' with tiny toddlers, but it really hampered their day-to-day lives, and ruined their carpets!

Hula - I'm delighted things went so well for you and your dd! Great to have ticked something off this list of things to do?

gothicmama · 07/05/2004 10:16

Just to add to all the other advice is emotional best(child and probably parent) to leave it until the child is old enough to be aware of the why, how etc. and to have a certain ammount of independence(can communicate)

Jimjams · 07/05/2004 10:22

Is she an ummm competitive mum??? 8 months!!!

18 months is early as well! I must get round to doing ds2- (2 last january) he is ready- but I've only just done ds1 and I want a rest!

Hulababy · 07/05/2004 10:24

roisin. I can take no credit. DD did it all herself. Leaving night time PT for a while though until she decides she is ready for that as well. She doesn't have Pull Ups on for naps anymore as she told told daddy "no daddy. I no wear nappies. I a big girl!"

LIZS · 07/05/2004 11:48

Fee77

Does this bay crawl yet or sit himself up ? I can't imagine such a young baby being able to sit himself on a potty as and when, however advanced ! Life is just too short to spend all day holding them over a potty or toilet to make a lucky catch !

Zerub · 07/05/2004 12:07

Did the mum explain what she meant? IME "potty training" is another phrase like "sleeping through" - means something different to everyone. If your baby can sit up, you can park them in a potty chair for 10 mins after every meal. If you're lucky they'll get conditioned to go in the potty. Saves a few nappies. And when you do potty train seriously you're slightly ahead. I have a friend who got a toilet seat they couldn't really fall off of, when her kids where a year old she used to park them on the loo (with a book) for 10 minutes after each meal (while she did the washing up - bathroom opened off kitchen).

Personally I couldn't be bothered.

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