Cant get him out of nappies!

[hayleyhew]

My son is nearly 3 - I have tried bribery out of the Argos book, everyone will buy him pressies, sticking him in pants and the reward chart. Any more ideas? Its the poo he is really not wanting to do on potty or toilet. I hasten to add all the above has been done mildly - I am not pressurising him.

My dd wasn't interested at all at 3y. In fact she would cry and become very distressed if we left her without a nappy. We left her alone in the hope that she would do it when she was ready. At 3y4m she decided she didn't want a nappy anymore. 3 days later she was dry and hasn't had a nappy for daytime since.

Perhaps he's got wise to his pressies. I mean if you kept on not doing a poo in the loo and then all of a sudden you do one and you get a reward... great. Wouldn't you repeat this behaviour. Can't you stop buying pressies etc and give him a big cuddle when he does. I've heard boys are generally a lot slower than girls when it comes to toilet training. My step son was in pull ups until just before he was 4 and was struggling with the poo thing for ages, probably until he was just turning 5. I'm sure its very frustrating for you.

teach him about the digestive system

take a month off and don't worry about it

then try again

babyblue2 - he is never got as far as to actually do one on the loo. Think I am just going to have to back off a couple of months and try again after xmas. thanks all

I found The big potty book for boys helpful, it really seemed to make a difference for us.

hi, another suggestion is to leave all his nappies out for father christmas to take away and he will leave some presents instead. thats if your little one has the understanding of christmas. my ds1 had a real problem doing poos on the toilet, i got him one of those seats that goes on the loo with a mini ladder up to it. the novelty of using this made him want to use the toilet and the problem was resolved within a week. good luck!!

I know this might sound gross but have you tried putting poo in his potty and showing him!!!! My niece has just gone through exactly the same thing. When she had pants on and she wanted to poo she would cry because she thought it was wrong. But one day she decided mummy i want to poo in my potty. So i would say be patient it'll happen when he's ready. Have u tried pants over nappie etc?

take off his nappies get a poty and leave it out, he knows what its for right, if not tell him, give gold stars for every time he uses it and just silently clean up messes do not talk about them take spare clothes when you go out and expect him to mess his clothes for first few weeks,

in a month he'll be dry, trust me i've used this methos with all 3 of my sons who were all late to toilet train.

I wouldn't be too worried tbh, if you let it go just a bit you'll find likely as not (Well I did with older 2) that when they DO train, they do it quickly, tidilya dn easily. It's when ethey'r ready to, that's all. DS2 was just before 3, ds1 about 3.5 I think.

DS, almost 3, is great with wees, in potty, on toilet with step and if we go out he asks to go. However, we have the same poo issue. Star charts, stickers, chocolate and toy offering are a waste of time. Im just going along with it. Lots of changes and no comments etc (apart from little reminders now and then) as that seems to be the general advice after reading up on all prev threads. Its very frustrating but keep going.

We have the same problem with DD1 (3.4). She's been dry for nearly a year during the day, but insists on pooing in a nappy - quite happy to put it on herself and go. I've tried all the rewards I can think of, but she gets quite hysterical if we try to force her and I'm worried it'll become a traumatic issue, so for now we're just chilling out about it, although we do remind her regularly. She says she'll do it when she's as big as me , I'm sort of hoping she does it a bit sooner, like before she starts school!!

I think wait for a bit. I waited until ds was a week off his third birthday, but it was very clear he wanted to be trained. it took 3 days and no accidents. Much easier than doing forcing the issue and taking months imo.