Staying in bed..without the aid of superglue!

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Can anyone out there offer me any advice..PLEASE..We have a 35mont old daughter who has always been great at going to bed at night...until now..If her dad puts her to bed she gets in fine has her story then when it's time for him to go she gets out of bed/wants a wee(which she doesnt need)/wants cuddle or wants mummy and comes back downstairs she will do anything but get into bed for him..once I have to go up I just tell her no and put her in bed she crys for a min then goes to sleep, but she can play up a little for me too if I am putting her to bed..she does get her cuddles etc..but it is very exasperating for my husband for both of us..we just want to do bedtime without the tears and upset on either side..I do hope I have explained this properly..Also we have a new baby in the house(11 days old) my dh reckons that is why she now plays up she thinks she is missing something but she dotes on her bbro and shows no sign of jealousy..Are we taking the wrong approach by letting her upset us or are we being to firm with her..what tactic should we try..If anyone can advise/understand my ramblings please let me know..Thank you in advance

I could've written your post!

I have a DD who is nearly 4 and has always been fab about going to bed. Don't get me wrong we've had to be firm ... only 2 stories, pre-empting the "I need a wee" thing by asking if she needs to check before getting into bed, that kind of thing. Then DD2 arrived. To begin with she was fine then about 4 weeks ago (DD2 is 12 weeks now) she started playing up ... fussing about going to bed, waking up in middle of the night and coming into our room etc.

I can kind of understand it cos DD2 is in our room so we're all cosy together and DD1 is on her own. But that's life isn't it, and DD2 will be in her own room soon and if we don't nip this in the bud DD1 would carry on coming into our room.

So we've got a sticker chart going. she can get 3 a day - 1 for going to bed without a fuss, 1 for staying in bed all night and 1 for not getting out till her bunny alarm clock wakes up. If she doesn't do one of these, she gets a sticker taken away. Once she gets to 60, she'll get a Sleeping Beauty doll which she's had her eye on for ages.

So far it seems to be working. We've been doing this now for 2 weeks and only one night has she come into my bed but DH was away so think that was why. Still took a sticker away though.

Think it is important when new babies arrive to be as firm as you would normally be. Does any of this help?

Thanks Wishingchair just nice to know not alone on this as with many other things in life...We tried a sticker chart already but unfortunately it didn't work wit our dd..since your post we have told her if she does XYZ we will take one of her books away each time(she loves all her books) so far it seems to be working but my dh hasn't attempted putting her to bed yet(he has been on nightshift)but is going to try tomorrow so please keep your fingers crossed..thanks for your post hope chart is stillworking for you