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DS's behaviour in groups...need advice, help, suggestions

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Mummymonster · 16/11/2006 10:48

My DS (31/4) is a happy intelligent friendly little boy and I'd like to think well adjusted. I am concerned though as in new situations or large groups (+5) he behaves so badly. He runs around, struggles, heads for the exits or wants to join in boisterously and with no mind to anyone else. Or he find a 'quiet place' and plays on his own there. He also likes to attach himself to a adult.

Last night we went to a party at a nursery, they had clowns. He wanted to join in with the clowns and when I had to intervene he'd run away and want to explore outside. I was mortified as I was the only guest of the birthday boy from outside the nursery and I didn't want his behaviour to reflect badly on the mum of the birthday boy as she works there.

It's not the first time this has happened. I've tried bawling at DS and I'm now trying to be calm/dismissive/assertive or removin him from the situation and now I'm at my wits end. I think 'why can other kids sit there and be nice, what am I doing wrong'

Advice, suggestions really appreciated with thanks

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Daisybelle · 16/11/2006 13:10

You sound like you're having a time of it alright! Not sure how much I can help except to be encouraging that something will work, one day. How often is he in these situations? would it be possible to go to a regular group of about 5 or 6 children to get him used to being surrounded by his peers? Whatever happens, don't blame yourself, you can only do what your child needs you to - he is not anyone else, he is him (if that makes sense!) He needs what he needs - the trick is working out what, and you will

Mummymonster · 18/11/2006 12:31

hello again

Ds's nursery teacher has suggested that he enter the butterfly programme. Has any one out there got any feedback, input on this programme?

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