Toddler getting out of bed - help please!

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We put our 21m old in a big boy bed a couple of weeks ago and he's been fine, even for naps until this week.
Have tried repeatedly silently putting him back in (he just giggles and leaps out to start banging on the door), have tried telling him off, have tried ignoring him completely (he starts goodnaturedly trashing his room.) When I open the door he runs back to his bed giggling like we're playing chase. Not even sure how we did it last night, think eventually I just shouted at him and wore himself out crying.
Anyone been there? What's the best route to take to get through this? Cheers, Liv

we have put a stair gate on ds2 bedroom door so that we can have the door open and we have had no problems since.

stairgate across bedroom door.

I agree stairgate across the door, it doesnt keep them in bed, our dd did keep getting out of bed when she first went into one I think this was because she could, we just kept putting her back in she soon got used to it and doesnt get out now until the morning!!

My 2.5yr old has been in her bed for a few months now. The only thing I can suggest is we bought a Tomy bed rail and it basically keeps her in, I think she thinks it's like the cot and hasn't attempted to climb out over it (yet!) - maybe its worth trying.

Do the stairgate thing, but make sure there is nothing he can use to drag to the gate to climb on - our dd2 tried this with a giant Tigger! Then if he keeps coming to the gate, do the rapid return thing - shattering but worth it in the end, even if at first they think it is funny.

Stairgate - it's worked for us since DD was 18 mnths old in and moved to a bed.

She used to trash her room big time, empty drawers, toys all over the floor. We ignored all this and let her fall asleep then as snuck in (like the elves in The Elves and the Shoe Maker) and tidied it all up while she was asleep!

At 3 she has now outgrown this habit - and amazing her bedtime routine for 7.30pm is fantasitc as she asks to be tucked in and goes right off!

Thanks but not sure how a stairgate helps? He'd just rattle that and start yelling! He's always had the door shut so he'd want to know what we were getting up to if he could see out.
He seems to be getting better though, only a handful of rapid returns last night.

DD did this about 2 weeks after going into a big girl's bed, suddenly realised she could I think!
Rapid return worked for us and she was about the same age as your DS. We stood outside the bedroom door and whenever she appeared silently escorted her back to bed. Took nearly 3 hours the first night tho so be ready . We took it in 1/2 hour shifts. Got the message though as it only took 4 nights in total. Hard work but worth it.

HTH and good luck!

oh, it brings it all back
doing "shifts" outside the door - with cups of tea etc. madness.
"rapid return" (good phrase )
it was hours the first few nights, but doesn't last long, just a few nights. they get the message soon enough.

The hardest part is that he's such a serious little boy this is the only time we see him giggling his head off!
Didn't get up at all tonight, persistence paid off, thanks.

We put our 2yr old into a bed 2 weeks ago and the fun has begun! He keeps getting out, so I keep putting him back without discussion, but the only way he will stay in bed is by me sitting outside his room with the door half open so he knows I'm there.. but he is taking an hour to get to sleep & I've been doing this every night! He used to sleep with his door closed so I think this is why he's taking so long and because I'm there too! Help please? -( thanku

we are about to put our 19 month old into a bed as hes got out of cot 3 times. My HV came round and she said if he keeps getting out of bed then just let him play with some toys on his floor and he may just nod off when hes ready.
Not sure if this theory will work in practice or if he'll just stand screaming at stair gate but thought id pass it on.

you need to sit outside his rooma dn tell him to get back
to bed
tkae a mag in case oyu get bored
then shout at hima dn tell him off

is te only way

if he sis laughing hten you have got NO authority

arf

cod is there a uniform?

Went and bought a stairgate... first night cried a bit, still kept putting him back... worked eventually with not too much struggle... second night even better only put him back once, third night pulled his room apart, then eventually climbed in bed himself and went to sleep! So overall stairgate has given me my evenings back for now.. will definatley be keeping it

We brought DS's bed time forward 30 minutes and let him play for 30 mins with door open but with dimmed lights on, rule is that he has to stay in his room, and if he does that then he gets one story and bed. If not, then not. He loves it and has been much better about bed time since then.

Mind you I've had to learn to accept that his room is a pig sty after 30 minutes of unsupervised play. So really its 25 mins play and 5 mins tidy up.

Now if we could just crack that insomnia easily we'd be sorted!