HELP please DD is so horrible to out puppy with the odd kiss and cuddle

[Bananaknickers]

She is very jealous of him. Her personality has changed since our puppy has arrived and I don't know what to do now. She hits him and kicks him and won't leave him alone.It is like she has another sibling younger than her to compete with.I have tryed letting her care for him with me.Anyone got any ideas please.I don't want to end up with a bad tempered dog either.

How old are they? (dd and pup)

She is 4.5 and the puppy is about 19 weeks Countess

If she's going to kick him she needs to be kept away from the puppy. At worst he may bite her, at the very least it's unfair on him and confusing.

take the dog to the NCDL - or sell in paper to a good home

poor dog.

Hmm

Not sure really as we had ours before we had dd. I would have thought that a 4.5 yo would be very into puppies but I guess if she has had all the attention until now then she prob would be jealous.

I guess all you can do is keep them apart until she warms towards the pup. Has he been playbiting her etc?

But if she's 4.5 then has she recently started school? Too much change all at once, maybe? I'm sure you can teach her to be kind to the puppy

Thank custardo for you helpful comment.Yes she started school not long ago and maybe that could be it too.She loves the dog and he is playbiting her.It is mostly her he is doing it too. I't alsmost like we have a new baby in the home and she is competing.

Tbh, I agree with Custy.

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Bless one of his baby teeth has just fallen out and she has gone of to get him something to put it in for the tooth fairy.We have two cats among other pets and she respects them.I am sure she will settle down

Thanks Melloma

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we have new puppy too and though dd1 aged 7 was adamant abou tit novelty has worn off and dd2 who got puppy for second birthday wont leave him alone and wiht all the squabbling over it an dpoo every where i am seriously considering sending myself too battersea dogs home in the hope someone will adopt me i threaten several times a day to send puppy back to the breeder...you could try explaining he will have to go back if she cannot be nice to him..

We have done that to and she says she loves him.I have just seen another thread where one toddler won't stop picking up the baby.That is it really but a puppy instead. Perhaps because she is constantly picking him up and stuff and is getting told off she is now feed up with the dog getting her into trouble as it would be seen by her.

Have just seen the comment that puppy is 'play biting' dd. This is part of establishing 'pack order'. You must explain to dd that she must never lay on her back & let puppy lick her/play with her - she will be in submissive position & puppy will think he's boss.
It's early days - take puppy to training classes and pass on whatever tips you feel your dd can understand.
Make her feel a responsibility towards the animal - explain that he can't understand why she is horrible if he hasn't done anything wrong.
SHE MUST LEARN NOT TO TEASE HIM - he'll end up a nightmare and it's not giving her a good message, either. She is old enough to understand that her behaviour is unacceptable.

Why don't you let dd take the puppy to training classes (with you obviously). They might bond as they're training together and i'm sure dd will love the fact that she's doing such a grown up thing and encourage her to behave responsibly to the puppy.

I agree with batters. You must stop your dd being cruel to the puppy otherwise you will end up with a nightmare situation. The puppy will in all probability go for your dd (perhaps when he is older and bigger) and the puppy will end up being put down (no one will take a dog if it has bitten a child, no matter what the provocation is).

Yes agree with you batters.That is the reason for starting this thread. trying to find ways to help them get along.Don't get me wrong she has kicked him once.I don't want this to happen.He is a good natured little pup.I take him to puppy classes and I will take her this week that is a good idea.The pecking order thing is so true and good advise again.I do think the pair of them are having a power struggle.Yes I do punish her when she does it but I would rather try to foster a good realationship between the two of them. I have never owned a dog so thought some mumsnetters might be able to give me some advise.She has boundries where she knows she is not allowed to go near him when she is eating and sleeping.It the times when she wants to play with him or he pinches her toys.Thanks for the puppy training advise though.He really does home in on her though I have to say.I will have to teach her the pecking order thing.I am going to get her to feed him and groom him again and see if that helps.

Good for you, Bananaknickers. There must be books out there that would be suitable for your daughter? You could read together and it would make her feel grown up that she's helping look after & train the puppy. Good luck.