HEADBUTTING!!

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Hi all i wondered if any1 could tell me if their child has gone through this!! my ds is 17 months old he is spoilt as ive 2 teenage dds no man in the house u can imagine,well whenever you tell him no or you take something away from him he headbutts,not us but walls and floors the harder the surface the more he likes it,if im out walking with him and he doesnt want to go in he will throw himself forwards or bkwards to hit his head now that worries me so i have 2 b there 2 catch him when he does this,in the end i took him to dr as he had bumps n marks all over his face ppl wouild think i beat him plus i was worried about damage to his head dr has sent 4 me to take him to hospital for some tecniques on how 2 sort this out,i dont know why he doing it but loves it..he does cry when he does but will do it again,have tried to distact him,but he 2 quick n the temper is bad any advice any1 thanks x

My ds did this aged 20 months when his little bro arrived. All the advice we read/heard said to completely ignore it as it's a method of negative attention seeking but it carried on and carried on and began to get me really upset (in conjunction with new baby and struggling to breastfeed, you can imagine!) so one day, hubby took son by the shoulders, went nose to nose with him and said 'NO MORE! You are upsetting your mummy!!' and it worked!
Can't say if it would or not for you, but maybe worth a try! Good luck!

hi jakeandbensmummy,ive tried to ignore him when he does but cant do it when im out due to the concrete pavement..ive tried nice voice,sad voice,loud voice,shouting voice.eye 2 eye like ur husband did it makes no diff he still does it,its the same when changing his nappie you know like when you lie them down as im doing it he is banging his head away in anger,its awful n scarey,im no pushover n when i say no i stick to it,if i know he is going to headbutt i can by his reaction ive even laid him down when i see the hulk arrive but he rolls over n smashes his head against the wall..i cant win....i dont know why hes doing it the same when he knows food is around he will stamp his feet n scream i tell him he has to wait thats it he runs n the headbutting starts again x

does he not stop when it hurts?... am soo sorry you have to go through this, mine did it a couple of times in temper, but soon stopped when he did it a bit too hard.

All you can do is persevere an ignore the head butting, I would also mention it to the HV, as I remember DS getting the most ugly bruises on his forehead and I felt like a child beater and felt like i had to explain myself to everyone, or put a hat on him

hi stoppinattwo,hv just suggested i ignore him,yes he hurts himself but seems to like it though it hurts, he only satisfied when he gives himself a good crack 2 the head then he will stop,he once done it so bad he was giddy from doing it,it upsets me as ifeel powerless to control him,his temper is so bad,just 5 mins ago his dinner was cooling down he went crazy running at the wall like a bull...when im out i feel ppl looking at me as he looks like a madman,n im unable to control it.the other day he was outside he likes to walk on my street up n down but it was very cold so i said come on its time 2 go in,well he through himself to the floor then ran n started to headbutt neighbours car.i just grabbed him up n in we went,its getting out of hand x

My DH looked at a website about this the other day as 21 mth ds1 is doing this ocassionaly - I'll ask him when he gets home which one it was.
Apparently boys are more prone to doing this than girls. They do it to express their emotions when they don't know how to get across their feelings or needs verbally iirc.

ds did this from when he was about a year for a few months. He's 18 months now and doesn't do it any more, probably because he realised it didn't work. Now he just lies down on the floor and rolls over (doesn't work either ).

Oh, ds did have a horrid bruise from doing this at one time, which made me rather worried about going out... we have parquet floors at home... apart from ignoring, we would also pick him up when he started it, hold him and say 'no'/'don't bang your head'.

Have you ever watched parenthood - Steve Matin "he likes to butt things" they put a tin bucket on his head

stoppinattwo HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA u made me laugh on that1,ive just got him 2 bed while the staircase got headbutted about 10 times....now has a lovely big bump arrrrrrrrrrrrrr