My dd is now 4 and has always been a handful - strong-willed, arguementative, etc, and has taken a lot of coaching to get her to behave somehwat normally. We use all the usual tricks - star charts, time-out, etc which do work some of the time but there are days when she just does my head in and I need to get it off my chest and find out if anyone else has problems like this. Since her sister arrived 18 months ago she goes through phases (usually about a week) of spinning around the room bumping into things, jumping off and on her chair, eating with her fingers, |singing la-la-la at every quiet moment. She doesn't stop, just goes from one thing to another. I guess for the most part it's not naughty behaviour so I try and ignore it or briefly tell her to stop, which she does and then a few minutes later just starts again. It feels like she's feeling left out (hardly!) and needs to make her presence felt. We had a terrible time when number 2 dd came long - out of work husband, depression, and I did a lot of shouting. Is is possible that she doubts my love in some way ? Or feels insecure ? Even when she's on a good week she needs almost constant attention and refuses to play on her own. She can, she just doesn't want to. I feel as if I've failed in some way as she just feels as if something is really amiss with her. Her childminder has had similar problems. She eats really well, very few additives etc and gets loads of sleep. Help please.