It's all falling apart with DS

[MummyPig24]

Ds1 is 7 years old and year 2 has been a rough year. He took a while to settle and he was being silly and disruptive. Things settled down but have flared up again.

The issue is not listening and silly behaviour. Although he did hit someone on Friday and I was called in to school. This is rare. Tonight his Beavers leader said his behaviour has got so bad he has had his assistant lodge leader woggle taken away. Apparently his behaviour has got worse over the last 1/2 term and tonight it was too much.

I always remind him of how to behave, try and understand reasons for the behaviour and reward or discipline as appropriate. But this approach isn't changing things at school and now we are having issues at Beavers which hasn't happened before in the 15 months he has been going.

What can I do to help change his behaviour? This can't continue or he will miss out on education and also fun activities.

As a primary school TA for twenty years, I have known many children such as you describe!

Do you know why he behaves like this? What is his school work like; can he cope with lessons, or does he struggle?

Has anything at home changed during the past year? How does DD behave, and how does DS act towards her?

I always like to think children don't REALLY WANT to be in trouble, and told off, but something inside the child makes them behave in this way. Somehow one has to try and find an explanation.

From what I hear, when he is at his desk he is fine and generally gets on with his work. He is very bright and does not struggle with the work. He misbehaves on the carpet when they are supposed to be sitting for whatever reason. Also in P.E i.e bouncing the ball when he is supposed to be holding on to it. And sometimes in assembly.

He gets distracted very easily and loves people to laugh at him. There's a group of boys in his class that are like this.

Dd is easygoing. She rarely misbehaves but if you try and get her to do something she doesn't want to do there is no hope. She is very stubborn but hardly ever pushes the boundaries. Ds loves to wind her up and doesn't listen well to her but they are very close and play together a lot and mostly nicely.