19mo biting and drawing blood! HELP!!

[clairebear0908]

My 19 month old daughter is youngest of 3 and has a cousin 4 weeks younger than her, she's a lovely girl and so so affectionate! Until she's playing with her brother and sister or her cousin and gets frustrated! She will bite them over things like they've took something off her, won't give her a toy, their in her way etc! She will also bite herself if we catch her and stop her biting them! We've tried ignoring her, naughty chair, making her apologise, shouting no or bitings bad! Making her kiss them better, Even getting the kids to bite her back and nothing works! She bit me twice and I bit her straight back so now she smiles and threatens but I only have to look and say no and she smiles and rubs where she was about to bite then kisses me! So this isn't a case of she doesn't understand because she honestly does but she doesn't care! She's at the point now she bites until they bruise or even bleed and it's not fair! My niece is terrified of her, my 6 year old son point blank igores her now too! What else can I do?

BTW asked HV for advice and was told to ignore her it was just a phase but I cant watch and ignore while my older 2 and my niece are walking round covered in red bite marks, bruised bite marks and when she's drawing blood!

I have a 17 month old who bites, and has made her 6 yo brother bleed. it's frustrating as she knows exactly what she us doing and goes so far as to pretend to be hugging then sinks her teeth in. I usually try and intervene before she has managed to bite, but it's not always possible. when she does bite she gets put into time out and made to give kisses better (its how she says sorry) I know I have to persevere with this as she will grow out of it eventually.
I think your biggest mistake was the biting back. you have made it acceptable to bite IYSWIM. consistency is key when dealing with toddlers. they grow out of it eventually and it is a difficult phase but you need to pick a method (time out, ignoring, etc) and stick to it. but do not bite her back. as I said, that just makes her think it's ok.

My ds3 is 18 month old and does exactly the same to his brothers and to me too. My ds1 went through the same at this age. It is a phase and will pass. Just hope we don't get seriously injured until then also ds3 is teething badly and also chews everything so maybe that's also the reason