daytime nap needed by mummy not toddler

[Maisiemouse]

Hello-am new to mn and becoming rapidly addicted..When does dd (darling daughter?) aged 23 months drop her daytime nap?..strangely she still sleeps at nursery but when it's just me and her (+ new dd aged 5 months..possibly part of problem) she fights her sleep and manages pretty well without (ie no meltdown)
I REALLY need her to sleep just to get 20 mins of downtime when her sister also manages to sleep
any top tips-she was always so happy to sleep and still is at night unlike baby sis...another story

Hmm, i think that at 23 months she will be naturally fazing out her daytime sleep.
Some days my ds slept but most days not at that age, then he stopped altogether and i desperately missed that down time as you say.
Sorry its a bummer but you cant stop natural progression. LOL! {smile]
Welcome by the way.

My DS1 is now 3 + 2 months and hasn't napped during the day for about a year, but he has "quiet time" after lunch when DS2 is asleep. Basically he goes into his room to play on his own. Somtimes I have to tempt him to stay with different toys or some music on, but generally he's happy to play alone for a while. Maybe worth a try?

thanks-yes am sure yr right and have been avoiding the truth-how is it that I'm always one step behind?..I master one thing and they're onto the next!

We do the quiet time thing as well. Ds dropped naps at about 2 - devastating for mommy! Some days he does better than others. When I am desperate, I put a dvd in a little portable player and he watches sesame street or bob the builder which can work when nothing else does.

IME it might be worth persevering for a bit. MY dd stops and starts with nap - she's 3.3 and regularly (4-5 times a week) sleeps for 1-3 hours! Just when I think oh no it's going she sleeps really well again. If she misses a sleep it's the next few days you notice it. Behaviour goes, eating is erratic and she gets upset easily. Then she has a couple of weeks of good naps again. Hope this helps

could you convince her to havea rest on the couch for a little while? my dd is 21 months and exactly the same but most days if she won't nap she will lie on the couch for a little while with her blanket and dummy which gives me a little time to sit down too

That's what Cbeebies is for!

my ds3 has just stopped his day time naps - he is 24.5 months and has gone from 3 hours every afternoon to nothing as of this monday. He seems fine - I'm really missing my peaceful afternoons!

I had to laugh reading your post Allbuggiedout. I had a friend whose 2 little boys were very well behaved - (whereas mine were holy terrors) and she looked at me askance when I said dd1 had dropped his nap. she advised the quiet time in room idea. The little so and so sneaked a black biro in there with him, and while i thought he was playing quietly (more fool me) he was actually colouring every inch of his face - and i do mean every inch. Never again. (he was 3 BTW)

I had completely forgotten the incident until you jogged my memory!

Take heart it may not be gone for good DS (2.7) recently started sleeping again having i thought dropped his nap over the summer. I too try to encourage quiet time after lunch i find it works better without tv. I sit with him but only if he stays quiet and lets me read my book or go on computer if he starts a conversation i go into another room . sometimes he sleeps mostly he do esn't but i still get a break. For this to work i think they need a fairly active morning. Good luck i too have a 4 week old so down time is essential

Hi Maisie, my ds is 2.5 and sometimes he takes a nap and sometimes not, usually it comes when we've had a very active morning. I have recently discovered I have an illness which makes me very tired at times, so sometimes I am in need of a lie down more than ds , so I now take ds into his room, do a wind down routine routine, books and then a song whilst stroking his head, this can often send him off, if not I lie down on the bed in his room which I consider a safe place , he tends to start playing and I doze/rest, then he gets bored and jumps on my head but often I can get 20 mins before that happens. Best of luck

Ds still went in his cot at this age to play quietly at the same time they had their rest at nursery. Now if I want a rest I have a nice library of various length Disney movies and a nearly 4 year old who will not move from the couch if one is on.

i really like the idea of a portable dvd player. have tried the active morning thing and this only seems to make her even more excited..
part of the problem is that her room is right next to where dd2 sleeps and so i can't really let her make too much noise so think sofa option+dvd may be perfect

finally when did everyone move their toddlers from cot to bed? (she can now escaope although hasn't tried to at night-only during afternoon nap (takes off grobag/clothes/nappy too..)

Anything that keeps them quiet and alive is ok with me, 3littlefrogs! How on earth did you get it off!?

Well,Allbuggiedout, - when I was at home when they were little, I had a part time business selling organic house cleaning products. I used a little on some cotton wool - (with some trepidation as it was on his face) - and wiped it off with a flannel wrung out in hot water. It took a day or two, but it did come off without any scrubbing thank goodness. His response to my reaction on seeing this unrecognisable apparition peeping round the bannisters was to say "well get me some face paints then!"

This is the same ds who dismantled the telephone down to its smallest components when he was 4, I was making what i thought was a very quick meal and thought he was playing with his lego.

I think I'd like your son!

I have to say i am very fond of him - but he hasn't half put me through it - esp. between 14 and 17 - I thought I was going to be in a home for the bewildered at one stage. He's nearly 18 now and seems to be calming down a bit!

my ds is nearly 3 and stills sleeps for 2 hrs in the day, my dd had 2 hour naps til she turned 5 and had to start school! lots of yawns since then..