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My baby girl is too keen for food

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olymbus · 17/05/2015 13:28

Hi Moms,

I'm really concern about my baby girl she is 9 months old, and she's late for development of big movement compare with alot of my friends' babies. eg she can only roll from tommy to back when she is 7 months+. I know every individual has different pace of development, but I'm worry about my baby she seems like more interested with food instead of toys, every time I train her to craw, I need to tempt her with a piece of cracker, or any kind of food. She's not willing to craw to reach toys, and she cannot craw yet. She will be happy if offered food, is that because she's hungry?

Also when she get bored, she will just cry and annoyed, she will cry when she can't get the toy but she won't risk a lot to reach it, she will still try for several times, but she will give up quickly and wants your help.

Doctor wouldn't say anything wrong with my baby, because she eats and sleeps well. I want to train her to craw, any one can have any suggestion? I would like to say she has no instinct to craw yet.

Thanks!

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Diamond23 · 17/05/2015 15:08

Babies need to go out, but the odd day on with your mil won't do any harm. Although my in laws stay in all the time and I don't think it's very healthy (this extends to indoor games is football and apparatus is
Climbing frame, kept indoors) so I know what you mean

Also, getting everything and bringing it go your baby may well discourage her from exploring herself. If happens.

But, you sound quite strict and determined. It's about allowing her to explore and develop by herself, not training her like a dog (dangling food in front of her to get her to move sounds particularly grim?)

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olymbus · 17/05/2015 15:09

Not too close, I'm thinking to find a playgroup, but would that be too late for her age? Or just take to the park and meat ppl randomly.

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JasperDamerel · 17/05/2015 15:10

Lots of babies aren't crawling at 9 months. My daughter was one before she could crawl, or even stand up holding onto something, and just wanted to be held all the time. She is now very active and sporty.

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olymbus · 17/05/2015 15:14

We use food to tempt her, otherwise she's not interested. I know it's very grim, but at least it works. But she's not happy to do that...

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SewingAndCakes · 17/05/2015 15:15

Definitely go to a playgroup! It's not too late. I found some better than others as one or two were cliquey and I didn't feel comfortable there, but I gritted my teeth and just kept trying. I met two of my current friends at toddler groups and our kids have grown together, and although now our kids are at different schools and we live in a different town we still see each other.

NerrSnerr · 17/05/2015 15:16

Do you have a children's centre near you? They usually have groups for different ages. Our library does a music group too that my nearly 9 month old loves. On days we don't have a baby group we go out for walks and things. I'm currently investigating all the parks and attractions in the local area so I know what's good for when she's older.

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olymbus · 17/05/2015 15:17

It's so nice, SewingAndCakes! Did you find playgroup from your local community?

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SewingAndCakes · 17/05/2015 15:18

Yes, I found the Sure Start/childrens centres to be friendlier and the staff there were able to signpost me to other groups. I did parenting courses and

SewingAndCakes · 17/05/2015 15:19

Jewellery making classes through one; it was really good to get a break and have time doing something that I wanted to do while the crèche staff looked after my kids.

gybegirl · 17/05/2015 15:25

Hi Olymbus,

I think that parent groups are great idea. Meeting people in the park etc is good but can take a lot of time to develop into friendship.

I would try NOT to tempt with food. Your baby just doesn't sound like she's ready to do some of the things you expect of her. They all develop so differently. My children walked a full 8 months after my sisters children. If I'd tried to get them to achieve that milestone too early I would have made both my slef and my children so sad. Try to take the pressure of yourself a bit (and her).

Just enjoy what she can do at the moment without thinking of yourself as a baby trainer. She will learn far more and far more quickly through happy playing and interacting with you. Plus you will both enjoy yourselves and stop feeling stressed. You're a team but it's not a competition.

Crying is one of her ways of talking to you. It's not her manipulating you.

m0therofdragons · 17/05/2015 15:28

My twins weren't sitting until almost 9 months and definitely not crawling. They are now 3.5 and developing completely fine. No need to train a baby just go with it. Controlling you with crying? Well a baby is totally depending on you so if she wants something she will demand it in her own way. When she can't reach it herself then just pass it to her. When she's 4 and still demanding you get her stuff then yes put your foot down but she's only tiny right now and not developed enough work out manipulation.

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olymbus · 17/05/2015 15:33

Ok, thanks again everyone! I feel better and just decided let it go, I doubt to use food though, now I should stop. Talked with early childcentre before, and the staff suggested me to do more tommy time(although she hates it). I believe the happiness will boost the learning, so try to make her happier. ALso I will insist to provide more opportunity for her to play and move!

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pookamoo · 17/05/2015 15:48

OP, I think everyone's giving really good advice on this thread. I hope you can find a good baby group to go to and some mums to chat to in real life.

Your baby will reach her milestones in her own time, and as her mum you can just enjoy the journey with her. And give her loads of cuddles!

tobytoes · 17/05/2015 15:53

My dd didt crawl until 11 months.

m0therofdragons · 17/05/2015 16:25

Just looked up - one of my twins didn't crawl until 1 and neither walked until almost 16 months! In comparison my nephew walked at 8.5 months.
now dtds are about to start school and the late development doesn't show at all. The first 3 years is them learning so much stuff that they may be learning more subtle skills. They all get there in the end. So thinking about learning and enjoy her. Play with her. Show her how to have fun and that she is loved - everything else will follow

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