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Tantrums in 13 month old - Normal?

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Countryside14 · 14/05/2015 17:23

Hi,

My DD is almost 13 months and for the last two weeks has had 2/3 big melt downs.

She's just had one after a nap, not sure was ready to wake, the dog barked. She only wanted to sit on mr. She dad tried to take her and she was having none of it. When I say her on the floor and just screamed. It's not like a crying scream it's like pure temper! Her dad has taken her out for a walk now and she's stopped instantly after i strapped her in. The one previous to this was much the same but I didn't fuss her to see if she stopped and it went on for 30 mins until her dad took her out and again she was fine.

She's always been firey and had quite a temper in her. I didn't think they through big melt down until nearer 2??

Does this sound normal? I'm such a worrier. They seem so intense and I never really know why she's like it which is what bothers me. Also I think she's got separation anxiety at the mo as she cries every time I leave the room! Litterally clings to me.

Sorry to go on.....Confused

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princessvikki · 14/05/2015 20:04

My dd started with the temper tantrums early to, perfectly normal, they all do diffent things at different times there's no rules to it. Deal with it the same as you would a 2 year old. Personally I would ignore her till she gives up. Giving on will encourage it because it get her what she wants. Hope that helps I bit.
I don't want to sound like a know it all mum bit I'm a nursery nurse as well so I've felt with lots of tantrumsSmile

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Countryside14 · 14/05/2015 21:18

Thank you Smile

They come out of no where. Like I say she's always been highly strung which shocked me as I just thought I'd have this little easy going text book baby. Wow I was wrong.

I tried to ignore her but she did t give up with the second one and j was getting so wound up inside I made my partner take her out. Would you say at that age it's just her strong willed personality. I just can't help but that it's not normal. She went to sleep fast nught, think she'd worn herself out!

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karmagetsyou · 14/05/2015 21:24

Yep! All normal & the best bit is they get worse Confused

Just remain calm (easier said than done!)

But you are not alone

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Countryside14 · 14/05/2015 22:29

Worse?! Oh hell!!

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princessvikki · 15/05/2015 08:46

defiantly normal, they do say a challenging behaviour is a sign of intelligence because their challenging rules and boundries rather that just following instructions. That doesn't help make it easier for you though Smile

karmagetsyou · 15/05/2015 13:22

Agree with Princess!

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Countryside14 · 15/05/2015 13:35

Also when she gets annoyed, like pre tantrum she sometimes will hit her head on the floor or whack her head with her hand. Is that just temper would you say?

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princessvikki · 15/05/2015 13:52

Oh yes that's not unusual , lots of children have head banging tantrums, it's just frustration, it's shocking to see though if you've not experienced it before. She won't do herself any real harm so don't worry to much , obviously montitor her and make sure she's not going to far but I really would ignore it, they soon learn what gets a reaction. It can be like living with a mini dictator at timesGrin

princessvikki · 15/05/2015 13:58

Also you dont mention her speech, my dd is 17months and she doesn't really speak and gets very frustrated. If your dd is the same it could be why she's blowing up, because she can't tell you what she wants

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Countryside14 · 15/05/2015 14:04

She only babbles, she can say a few words like dog and dada and she's bye a couple of times but that's it. She's only 13 months so hopefully it'll come and she'll be able to tell me why she's annoyed.

She banged her head today in a cafe. I didn't know where to look!! It must have hurt as she had a little cry.

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HeffaLumpers · 15/05/2015 15:52

Yes normal. Dd was the same at that age and started with proper tantrums and toddler like behaviour well before any of her friends. She used to throw her self to the floor very dramatically and hit her head, it looked awful from such a small child. At that age it's inprtant to remember she is not manipulating you she just can't control her big emotions and frustraion so I don't think ignoring etc are appropriate. It is also the peak time for separation anxiety but it does pass.

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Countryside14 · 15/05/2015 16:12

Thank you. Her really suffers from that at the mo. I can't leave the room without her crying. But it's ok for her to leave me when she feels she wants to. She won't even go to her dad for a bit she has to warm up first. She does seems to act older than her age.

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Countryside14 · 15/05/2015 16:15

Can not type in this phone!

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princessvikki · 15/05/2015 17:11

They all go through clingy stages normally at 9 and 13 months so she right on track with that, I would guess she probably more advanced in her brain and she frustrated because she can't express it yet, my dd is the same , she understands eveything and can follow quite complicated instructions but is a bit slow with talking. I'm hoping she'll catch up and calm down a bit soon

Littlef00t · 15/05/2015 21:09

Yep dd started having them about 12 mo. She's easliy distracted at the moment, also tendency to head bang and hit her head. Desperately try not to be controlled by her, and think ahead whether something will set her off and decide if I want to follow through and take the consequences.

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Countryside14 · 15/05/2015 21:23

With my dd I can't pin point what it is that annoys her. It's just random at the mo it so it seems to me. I did worry that maybe is was behavioural/disorder related but having read all of the replies I think it's just her age and her temperament.

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princessvikki · 16/05/2015 09:25

She's a bit young for any behavioural disorder to be showing yet, I wouldn't worry they all go though it at some point

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