4.7yo Ds doesn't seem that she like me much anymore ;(

[littleraysofsunshine]

We've always been so close. We still are but recently her calm, caring and loving nature has changed some days. If something isn't going her way, she will just grown at me, huff and puff and look at me like I'm just horrible.
She attends preschool every morning which she loves, but recently her attitude can just switch. We spend some time together but maybe she's really just craving more "us time"?

We have always done stuff as a whole really and enjoyed it that way. Still do but I think there's times when maybe she acts up because she is needing more her time.

We hVe her, dd2 is almost three and 15mo boy. So very close and they're use to it being this way. We've recently moved home but I'm just not sure.

When out with our family she will just stay with daddy or Grannie and not be interested in me, or holding my hand like she use to, cuddling watc.

And I sometimes feel like she will only cuddle if she's after something.

Feeling pretty down about it

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I feel for you, it does sound upsetting but I'm sure she does still love you very much. You're her mum, you're bound to be her whole world but maybe because you're her main carer she feels secure enough with you to pull away a little. She's perhaps getting to an age where she's developing more of a separate identity.
If she doesn't get as much time with her dad and grandparents as with you there will be a novelty factor to them when they are around. So she may bask in their attention for a while, but she would come running to you if she hurt herself or was upset.
Don't let it worry you, I'm quite sure this is just a phase. Sometimes things with my ds are idyllic, other times we aren't in tune so much and he drives me mad but the foundation of love and security is still there and that's what counts. No relationship is perfect all the time, but if you let your dd see it's bothering you she's probably likely to behave this way even more as it then becomes a bit of power play. Hope this is helpful.

Maybe it would be good for the two of you to do something special together as well, something you know she will love?

As children get older and mature, their needs gradually change, and presumably it won't be very long until she is at school full time. That will be another change for her, and for you, but you will have more time for your other children then.

She is plenty old enough to start learning music in some way, and I often suggest an electronic keyboard, and if you can afford it a full size, 61 keys model. She could probably learn from a simple tutor book, if an adult just gets her started. Our DS started on our Yamaha organ at two, and was reading simple music by five.