3 year old ds has just crumpled up my ultrasound pics

[midlifehope]

Ripping the frames in the process. He threw them at me in the kitchen. This appeared to be some kind of tantrum / revenge for me taking the iPad off him to look up a recipe for dinner. I am devastated not only because he's damaged the pics, but also that he would do this. I rang dp for support and he made it worse, basically blaming me for his iPad addiction (even though dp often has him in front of television often when I come home from work). I was in tears and ds said sorry I didn't mean to. I had no idea appropriate punishment / response. I am a gentle parent and just told him how upset I was. And he gave me a hug, I'm just feeling really low now. Not just because of ds but but dp kicking when I'm down by basically blaming me. Feel bloody crisp

Your 3 year old is really not going to understand the importance of the ultrasound pictures. I would imagine it was the closest thing to hand, and he might have some inkling that they are important. He was just having a normal toddler tantrum.

It sounds like it has been resolved now anyway, with the hug and the apology.

Your DP sounds insensitive though. I think you should have a calm talk about it later on, and just explain that what he said didn't help.

Yes culture it may also be expressing protest at the impending baby?

Anyway kissed and made up now. Dp s attitude annoying though - esp as I just called home at tv was on full blast!