DD is 7.
As a baby she had bad silent reflux due to milk protein intolerance and is still intolerant to raw milk.
She does also get sick/have reflux if she eats some foods.
However, she is also a little bit spirited.
Very competitive.
Quite impulsive.
Gets really, really furious and just cannot calm down even though she is aware there will be consequences if she e.g. hits her sister (a frequent occurrence).
Very emotional but also tactile and loving.
She has good reading age. Very good maths. Writing is ok if a bit scrawly.
Teacher has commented that she occasionally puts her hands over her ears.
She is very avoidant of being spoken to over conflict at school, even if it was her that was the victim- clams up and refuses to speak. Absolutely refuses. (It makes me worry if anything ever happened to her she would not speak)
Teacher also says she is hyperfocused to the point she does not notice other things going on about her.
and that "she has no centre" i.e. struggles to sit up straight during story time.
She often does things she has been told not to e.g. touching things/fiddling, but almost seems surprised she has done it.
The thing that prompted me to ask was another thread that mentioned sense of smell- she has an extremely acute sense of smell. She cannot sit near people eating food she dislikes. She also picks up e.g. the smell of certain plants or animals long before they are visible.
Is a very picky eater, is thin and will go hungry rather than eat something she does not like (even if she ate it yesterday). Fills up quickly even when hungry. But will gulp down large quantities of liquid- sometimes huge quantities.
she is also funny, helpful, lively and when she is not furious, quite kind and generous. And she does apologise later if she was very wrong.
She chews her clothes.
she whistles or makes repetitive noises if she is e.g. in an unfamiliar place and just cannot seem to stop it. Not anything really loud or overt. Just quiet whistling or hemming.
She is also agile and good at all sorts of sports, cycling, football, running etc. She is not clumsy at these things despite being quite clumsy generally especially when tired.
mostly she is fine. It is just that the teacher has gone out of her way to mention these things despite dd performing well at school.
And also she is sometimes a bit "hard work" compared to other kids. Especially noticeable when we are out with other kids. She is delightful on her own.
Does this ring bells? If so, is there anything that will help her (and or me- sometimes as an lp I struggle to be patient)? Or is this just normal competitive kid?