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Embarrassing 7 year old and new partner - does everyone find it hard?

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Operabears · 05/11/2006 01:00

Have just come home from introducing my 7 year old son to my new bloke (well "friend" at the moment). After giving him completely fantastic advanced publicity (well deserved usually) he proceeded to laugh incessantly in a maniacal fashion and talk about rude things . I KNOW he is 7 (only child) and imagine that it is completely hilarious to talk with his school pals in this way. He is normally a truly wonderful kid - least I thought so! Maybe it's a wake-up call? Just feel like I need some support, someone to say it's completely normal... My new bloke only has one girl of 9 and they got on like a house on fire. But he doesn't have experience of boys. Think he was a bit shocked... It was as though I fed him a ton of blue smarties washed down with a double espresso just before we arrived. Can see my relationship going down the pan! Ah well... HELP PLEASE!!

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/11/2006 01:10

Well, if this guy is a parent, then I am sure he understands how children can be sometimes. If he doesnt, then he isnt worth bothering with. Sounds like normal 7 year old behaviour. He was probably quite nervous too.

Not your boys fault, they just are what they are.

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ghosty · 05/11/2006 07:08

It sounds like your son was embarrassed/showing off ... which is what my DS does when he feels under pressure. We don't have your situation but my DS (nearly 7) can be really idiotic when he is in a new situation or is trying to impress someone (I still cringe at the memory of DS' behaviour when he last saw his grandfather - my FIL ... whom he was desperate to impress but went about it the wrong way )

I don't think you should be embarrassed or indeed cross with your DS - just explain to your new friend that he was showing off and he will calm down as he gets to know him ...

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sanchpanch · 05/11/2006 08:01

sounds to me like he was trying to show off.

where did you all go? might be and idea to go somewhere like bowling etc, where your ds will be kept busy,

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hatwoman · 05/11/2006 08:07

really agree with the others - also girls can be like this too - when dds get in a silly mood they're embarrassing, idiotic, giggly and talk about poos and wees with the best of them. I have no experience of 9 year olds but maybe your new partner's dd is past this stage - but I bet she's done it in the past. be honest to your new partner - tell him you felt it was a bit stressful for ds and you're sure his better qualities will come out once they're more used to each other. good luck

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Operabears · 07/11/2006 23:35

Just wanted to thank you all for your support. I have recovered from the stress now, and am still in my relationship! Only have one child so no previous experience like this really... you are right, he is just being 7 and acting up in a new situation. Why didn't I think of that? Was constantly told to stop showing off when I was little. Like mother like son, eh?