Hi, My DD2 started reception at school in September. Since then there has been a steady stream of invitations. DD1 always accepted every invitation that she could, but recently when I tell DD2 that she has had another invite she just shrugs her shoulders and says 'they aren't really my friend, I don't want to go.' In fairness some of the recent invitations are probably reciprical ones, as she did choose to 'blanket' invite all the girls in her class to her joint birthday party plus she has no shortage of friends. So the question is do I call her bluff and decline the invitations and live with the consequences if she kicks off if and when she realises she has missed out of attending or do I put it down to part of the contrary phase she is going through and accept, in the anticipation that she changes her mind on the day. ( I did decline one in preschool that she said she didn't want to go to, but it was from a boy who was off to another school so there was no reminder of the party from other friends nearer the time.) Fire away, I'm a strong cookie.