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DS 7 with very short temper- advice please

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krisskross · 21/04/2015 15:08

Hello

Our DS has a very short temper and it's (for me) beginning to feel like a problem.

A bit of background.... We also have a DD nearly two years younger and they are very close.

In most respects he is a lovely boy. Very kind, thoughtful, funny and silly. He does well at school and is polite most of the time.

However, he gets cross very easily and with very little provocation. He often seems to think people deliberately want to upset him when they don't. Eg if his sister accidentally bumped into him and didn't immediately apologise he would get v wound up and have a go at her. And if the apology doesn't sound genuinely contrite he gets angry. I'm fairly certain he only behaves this way with DH, DD and me.

He us also becoming v passive aggressive When angry. I've tried (but not succeeded) to encourage him to accept when he is angry and when he's feeling calmer to tell us About it.

I think it's getting worse and we seem to be in this awful vicious cycle of him sniping and me telling him off.

To give some background, he is very happy in school but doesn't have any real close friends, plays mostly in groups And is generally happy. When he is in an ok mood he is good at talking about feelings etc.

FWIW my mum thinks I should ignore it and that I'm making a big deal of this. But both mine and DH family struggle to talk about feelings, DH family are especially negative / passive aggressive. I want to help Ds to grow into a boy/ man who can let the unimportant things pass and talk openly about his feelings.

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krisskross · 21/04/2015 20:26

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macdaddydoodah · 21/04/2015 21:53

Don't want you to go unanswered but no help really as in a similar position with DS 6. Seems to fly off the handle at the slightest thing and is gettting worse. Feel like this is payback as was a dream from 0 to 3, no terrible twos just a very smiley happy chap . Hope someone comes along with some answers.

krisskross · 22/04/2015 11:19

thanks for answering macdaddy- maybe everyone else has v laid back children Smile

My DS was also easy as pie til about 5...so perhaps you are right!! My DD was much harder til 4 and now she is sooo easy!! (though shes only 5, theres lots of time to change!!)

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