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Disciplining 7 year old in front of family

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justwondering72 · 19/04/2015 12:10

I am struggling with this! My 7 yr old DS has always been fairly volatile, impulsive, quick to react and never, ever, backs down from an argument. To date, I have dealt with his meltdowns by removing him from the situation, explaining why, and not allowing him to return until he is calm. I usually stay with him, but often he prefers to be left alone to get over the worst, then look for cuddles when calm.

ATM he is being rude, talking back, whining all the frickin time, and arguing furiously over things that, until now, he has been okay with (like screen time limits, saying please and thank you etc) I am struggling to find ways to deal with this quickly and calmly. It quickly escalates to tears and shouting, and probably exacerbated atm because we are on holiday with my parents. I can no longer cart him off to deal with / talk to in private as he is just too big and I really don't want to be dragging him across rooms :(

I've always been proud of being able to mostly deal calmly with him, even at his most hysterical: it's just not working now :( and atm my mum tends to butt in, while my dad eye rolls as he cant stand the drama.

Help! I need new tactics!

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Gileswithachainsaw · 19/04/2015 13:18

bumping for you.

not on holiday but have similar issues with my dd. nothing works. empathising makes it worse. ignoring her makes it worse. She's destroyed parts of the house with her temper. She managed to trap us the other day as she pulled the handle off her door when I was trying to talk to her.

She's lost all her toys her teddies her books. She's been grounded she's missed her swimming and outings and seeing friends and still will not realise she's not a victim she's made a choice that will not lead to her being able to do what she wants to do. I have not ever or will not ever give in to tantrums. She knows this but still fails to stop herself rampaging. I dread leaning the house because I don't want to see my neighbours. God knows what they think. I live in fear of a know at the door.

I miss my dd. Sad

you have my sincerest sympathies Flowers

((((hugs)))

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