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Ds refusing to poo...help!

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moggiemay · 17/04/2015 20:30

Ds is 5, he has always had funny ways, has to be naked, no one else in house, quiet, recently it has to be night time, dark outside, I've tried to ignore these things, not make a big deal of it. Recently we went away for a long weekend and he refused to go, waited till we got home, not unexpected, he went to his dad's and refused to go and wouldn't eat much because he didn't want to poo and had to come home a day early because of stomach pains, two days later he still hadn't been and I took him to out of hours because he was in agony. I had to give him an enema and force him onto the toilet , he was happy afterwards that he'd been, it didn't hurt and I was hoping that would be it, now we are back to the stomach pains and refusing to go, he's on laxatives but he's doing he's damdest to hold it in! I just don't know what to do, I don't want to get cross and he's to big and determined to manhandle. He does have other issues at the moment around anxiety and his relationship with xh which I'm trying to get support for him, I just want ideas how I can help him so this doesn't become a long term issue for him

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Piratejones · 17/04/2015 21:02

I feel your pain, we've had poo issues for years!
Is feeling "Safe" at the toilet the issue?
I wonder if he would feel more able to go on a potty in his bedroom, or even a pullup hidden somewhere, would him finding a hiding spot work?

Maybe explain "Let's put a pullup on / use this potty then you can hide anywhere you like and poo, no one will see you can you can be really private"

Right now the most important thing is him going every day, you can tackle getting him on the toilet at a later date.

moggiemay · 17/04/2015 22:00

Thanks pirate, I suggested the potty to him but he said no, he has to have a seat on the toilet, he used to be worried about falling in but he can't explain why he doesn't want to go now, just says he doesn't need to while clutching himself in agony!

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Piratejones · 18/04/2015 09:13

It's known as Parcopresis "bowel shyness".

He can only poo when he's sure no one can hear or see him doing it, he need to feel safe and private.

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