How do you discipline your children ?

[Linstock]

How do you deal with naughty behaviour apart from the usual loss of pocket money, naughty step, sent to room etc ?

I don't believe in smacking so depending what the naughty behaviour is I make my daughter wear the clothes I want her in. I take away her choice for a while and quite often what I like her in and what she likes to wear aren't the same ;-)

My littlen is 2.9 and she gets a 5,4,3,2,1 and if what I have asked her to do (or not do) hasn't been done then there is a consequence, we don't go out as planned or no park that day or whatever but normally 9 times out of 10 it's done by number 5,4,3,2 so it seems to work.....For now anyway.

I use a reward chart for my 3 year old. We sat together and agreed 3 things that he can be rewarded for each day. If he achieves them then he gets a sticker for each one. If he gets all three stickers in a day then he gets a small reward before bed. If he gets all the stickers in a week he gets a bigger reward. I usually sit with him on a Sunday night and remind him what he needs to do and he choses (within reason) his weekly reward. I think it also helped that he helped design the chart and chose his stickers.

OP - so how old is your child?? You make her sound quite old, 'pocket money' etc??

I tend to go for natural consequences rather than arbitrary punishments. Making a child wear clothes they don't want to seems a bit... odd.

Linstock, my DS is 3 and chooses his own clothes within reason. IE I say he needs to wear trousers and a long sleeved top and he will chose from his drawers. If he wants to put shorts on in winter then he is told he needs to choose something else. Let her choose her own clothes - imagine if someone was dictating what you had to wear each day.

I don't "punish" dd at all. We discuss the importance of doing the right thing, and the real consequences (to self and others) of not doing so. I would prefer a child who made the right choices out of an actual desire to do good in the world, rather than out of fear of me! She is just about 3, and, thus far, extremely well behaved (am sure that is just luck of the draw though).
The clothes thing OP sounds quite humiliating for her?

You humiliate your child as a punishment?