advice on difficult two year old

[jmummyk15]

Hi looking for advice. My son is addicted to bottles literally if he doesnt get one at night he hits kicks ive had a black eye i thought it was night terrors but have cut bottles out n put him in his own room now due to his own and my safety he is wide awake when doing this so aware.. he doesnt listen to me at all no respect amd literally dont know what to do ive now had him assessed by peadtrician awaiting results he eats weird stuff to like wood n hair and doesnt play really jus runs throws or hits does anyone else have any experience with this kind of thing or advice... i thought maybe he was just naughty but hes def behind qith his communication but literally if someone is talking to me yis behaviour is terrible its so emvarrassinh its 24hrs a day i dont go out or leave my kids i feel ive made them like this so the guilt kicks in.. he hardly eats either n doesnt really feel pain

I haven't got much advice or experience but this is not your fault. You've done exactly the right thing in getting a referral, you've done nothing wrong here so please don't blame yourself.

If he eats little, he's probably hungry in the night. Just until you see the Paed, could you just give him the bottle at night? Does he drink it and then go to sleep?

I had a bottle at night until I went to school and my 2 year old still has bottles, I don't think it's a big issue really, I'd be tempted to continue giving the bottles if it makes things calmer and easier for you.

How are you now OP?

He slept through last night but in my bed with me bad but i needed to sleep

Why is it bad to have him in bed with you? If you both slept, surely that's good?

Health hisitors friends etc all go on how bad it is ny five year old sleeps with me all night maybe i should stop worrying and just do whats right for me and kids ay i dnt mind if he sleeps all night that was firat time ever though

I'd ignore the HV and your friends, they aren't the ones who are sleep deprived and have to deal with him at night. If you get more sleep, do what's right for you

Could you try a parenting class? Not saying you've caused him to be like this but you need strategies to cope with his behaviour. If he's hitting and kicking now imagine what he could do at 15. You all have to learn some new ways of being together as a family I think.