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DD not always aware of personal space

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sweetmuffins · 01/04/2015 06:19

DD (5) is a very huggy, touchy-feely type child. I've told her a few times she mustn't touch/stroke her Reception class friends' faces as not everyone likes this. She also has been told not to hug inappropriately, e.g. teachers, TAs etc. I've said how she hugs and loves close family is great, but that sort of behaviour is not acceptable outside of home with less familiar people. She has a tendency to get too close to others occasionally. Not all the time, just sometimes.

The other day, she hugged her swimming instructor as she got excited that she'd mastered a certain technique. I'd reminded her she mustn't do hug especially her swimming instructor. He recoiled and said "Whoa, DD, too close!". So he obviously felt his personal space was invaded. She said it's because she likes him as she does her school friends and teachers. She just doesn't always get it.

She's pretty bright having been told she's exceeded all Reception-age targets and will commence Year 1 work after Easter.

How do DH and I teach her not to invade other people's personal space? Has anyone else had such an issue? What became of it and how did you deal with it?

Help appreciated, thanks MNers!

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MrsFlannel · 01/04/2015 09:17

I suppose the swimming teacher is very aware of any inappropriate contact being a risk...or in fact normal contact being construed as inappropriate.

Is she sensitive to touch in any way? Or to sound? When I say touch I mean scratchy jumpers, or does she complain about her socks and things?

CaulkheadUpNorth · 01/04/2015 09:27

Could you teach her to high five people? That worked for a child I worked with who was otherwise hugging people a lot. So each time she was pleased or something she asked for a high five from the person. It worked, and then she grew out of it after a while.

AndWhenYouGetThere · 01/04/2015 11:01

Yes - we've had this experience. High 5's are the way forwards.

sweetmuffins · 01/04/2015 20:33

Hi thanks for your responses. Mrs Flannel, yes, swimming instructors would be extremely cautious about close contact due to their position.

I do think it's a good idea to try high-fiving. I never thought of that but will give it a go. Then I will let you know how we get on.

Thanks MNers!

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