Going "bleep" insane!!!!

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DD (16 months) is sleeping **__AWFUL at the moment!!!!! It's bloody ridiculous!!!

Most nights she wakes every hour and sometimes 2 or 3 times an hour!!!!

She gets settled about 7pm and usually sleeps until I bloody go to bed (aroubd 10 most nights). It's like she knows????? I'll be in bed maybe 10/20 mins, just long enough to start getting into 'snoozeville' and then she'll cry out!!!

How can it be this same pattern nearly every night???

I can't live like this! I am getting NO sleep and just can't function and because i'm getting zero sleep my tolerance is at an all time low with the reasons why she may be waking!!!!

DH and I have our set nughts when we each go through the night with her and it has to be that way in order for the other one to get a decent night sleep.

Trouble is when you've had so many bloody lousy nights sleep, having one decent night doesn't seem to scratch the surface in helping me cope better when it's my turn.

Tonight I was in bed by 9:45. I have had to go into her 3 times and it's only 00:15!!! I have been "allowed" to touch the outskirts of 'snoozeville' each time but never get to stay for long!!!

I am at the end of my tether

You poor thing. It's so very hard, what you're going through!

My 17mo LB does not sleep through either but I admit to getting lots of sleep and not being tired - I breastfeed and we cosleep from midnight. He is in his cot from 7.30pm.

Do you have a good (ie exact same sequence every night and very close to same times for each part eg drink/bath etc) bedtime routine? Does she nap during the day? Is this a new thing or longstanding? I've read that tyrosine rich foods are sleep inducing ... Perhaps a bit of cheese as a bedtime snack? White noise (I use radio static from untuned radio), lavender massage and pillow sachet.

Elizabeth pantley does a really good book called the gentle sleep solution. Please please don't try crying it out, there's evidence it does long term damage to babies.

(I know - you are probably thinking so does a sleep deprived mom - but please know that you are not alone!! Good luck and all the best Xo)

Google 'wonder weeks' if it's not a longstanding problem. Is she teething?? My LO is also worse than usual and has a few molars coming out.

Thanks for responses.

Yes she has a very good and long established bed time routine so know that's not the issue.

Naps are tricky as 3 days a week she's at nursery and tends to have only (on average) 30/40 mins a day, whereas when she's at home she can do anything from 1.5 - 2.5 hours a day!

We used to use white noise pretty much from day 1 and decided to stop a number of months ago. We felt at some point we'd have to so might as well do it when she's not massively reliant on it.

This was her "norm" for a long time but a few months ago we felt she'd turned a corner. She slept through from the moment she went to bed until 7/8am and we didn't hear anything from her all night.

Then recently she has gone back to multiple night wakings! I do think it is teeth related but just don't understand why it's SOOOOOOO much more of a problem at night????

Ah! Yes sounds like teeth. Or a wonder week. A phase where they are incredibly needy when u need it least! But they emerge from that phase with a new developmental milestone. So don't despair. This too shall pass. With the a little gift for momma as well - either some new teeth or maybe a few new words. My little one at the moment is CONSTANTLY on the boob. But this morning he jumped for the first time after hilarious attempts at it for the past few days. With both feet off the floor! Lol. So what really helps me in those darkest of moments is that his circuits are working so hard he needs constant recharging and I'm his power source. Sorry hope that does not sound too corny but it is hard so hard being a parent ESP a mom and there is no option for you but to respond to your LO, you just have to make this phase bearable for yourself. hugs

By the way give her some calpol/nurofen every 4-6 hours at night. During the day she's more distracted so doesn't feel as restless.

Thank you mumyum