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sons 'rich' friend with better than you attitude ...how do I deal with it?

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welliesandwine · 29/03/2015 11:49

My 8yr DS has a friend who is from a wealthier family ...whenever he comes over to play he makes remarks about how I should work harder to get a nicer house and go in better holidays etc etc ..apart from being rude (he just laughs when I tell him that) how else can I deal with him and help my son deal with him ....he's coming over today whilst his parents are out ...and I am soooo not in the mood!??

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pinkyredrose · 29/03/2015 11:51

Could you just not have him round? He sounds like a spoilt brat.

JeanSeberg · 29/03/2015 11:51

Fuck that for a game of soldiers, tell his parents today's no longer convenient. No-one would be speaking to me like that in my own home, let alone an 8 year old!

StaircaseAtTheUniversity · 29/03/2015 11:54

Agree with the others- cut him out, he may only be a kid but he sounds like a little prick.

SavoyCabbage · 29/03/2015 11:55

I wouldn't have him either.

One of my eight year old dd's friends complained all the time about how boring the toys were and how she wasn't having any fun. I cheerily told her she needn't come back and I haven't asked her again.

Joyfulldeathsquad · 29/03/2015 11:58

I wouldn't have him round OR I'd mention it to his parents.

One of the young boys that were in my summer sports classes went a private school and his parents were very wealthy. I asked him to help clear up and he said 'no, I shouldn't have to my father pays your wages'

I did tell him off and I aldo told his father when he picked him up. His father was mortified! And made him apologise.

I would speak to his parents. It's very rude and he shouldn't be allowed to speak to people as if he thinks they are beneath them

glittertits · 29/03/2015 11:59

Don't have him over.

babybarrister · 29/03/2015 12:00

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welliesandwine · 29/03/2015 12:00

Committed now .. My DS just laughs at him and tells him to go home if he doesn't like it ...but it really winds me up ...I shall be brave and tell his parents what he says but I think they just agree with him

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JeanSeberg · 29/03/2015 12:01

Why should she subject her son to this? Stop the visits and tell his parents why.

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welliesandwine · 29/03/2015 12:11

DS is friends with him at school and they get on its just if he comes to ours or gets a lift somewhere (in our old car 'that smells' )that he starts ...he has done it in front of his mum and she just smirked ...now I am typing it ..I can see how I am dancing around someone else's kid who has an attitude,I wouldn't take it from mine ..Think it has been drilled into him that "mummy and daddy work very hard so they can have nice things" so she he comes across anyone that doesn't have similar he assumes they're lazy.

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Floggingmolly · 29/03/2015 12:18

His Mum smirks?? . Seriously, don't have him round again, you won't "teach" him any better no matter what you say, if it's bred in the bone.
They all sound vile, and your ds can continue being friends with him without having him constantly in your house (or smelly car!), it's not necessary at all.

JulyKit · 29/03/2015 12:25

How about telling him that there are people in this world who are lucky and intelligent enough not to be obsessed with wealth and 'things', that it's a shame that some people are so limited that they can't see past material wealth, and what crashing, charmless bores those people are?
If possible, see if you can make those comments when his mother is present...

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welliesandwine · 29/03/2015 12:30

Ooooh I like that JulyKit !!

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Oldraver · 02/04/2015 00:27

I'd look him straight in the eye and tell him the one thing money cant buy are manners...the first time.

After that I would tell him not to talk to me like that, and tell him he wouldn't be invited if he didnt STFU

AuntieDee · 02/04/2015 01:27

Just tell the mother her son isn't welcome unless his manners improve...

LikeABadSethRogenMovie · 02/04/2015 01:37

Yes to exactly what AuntieDee said!

When DC1 was younger, they made a friend who they thought was the bees knees but used to drive me insane as he was such a snob. I put up with it right up until the day he pushed over 7 month old DC2 saying that DC2 "was annoying".

I literally called his mum up then and there and told her to pick up now right now and that he wouldn't be welcome back until he learned how to behave.

Ironically, we're much richer than Master Snobby nowadays. It secretly makes me smile inside

sh77 · 02/04/2015 09:51

Shocking. Please let us know what happens.

hollyisalovelyname · 02/04/2015 12:58

That child winds you up and annoys your dc..... and you're entertaining him.
Get a grip.
No more coming around.
They don't share your values - mother smirking- I'm angry on your behalf OP.

Casuallyvacant · 02/04/2015 13:01

I had some spoilt brats staying in my B&B over the summer. One befriended my DD and played in her bedroom. When I suggested they both tidied up I was told, " No! That's what the maid is for in our house!"

She got the very shortest of shrifts!

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