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How do you deal with toddler whining...

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Bugaboom · 27/03/2015 09:45

and the rest- whinging, tantrums etc. It feels like for the last week my 2.7 year old is constantly whining and whinging and always on the verge of a tantrum (there's been a couple of spectacular ones recently). I offer choices wherever possible, distraction but nothing seems to work. I'm not sure if the last of his teeth are coming through as a dose of ibuprofen helped yesterday (although he was starting to calm anyway). And he is beginning to drop his nap so is tired. But I'm finding it so difficult as have a 2 month old too- he was brilliant with her to start with but is now starting to hit her.
I find myself making stupid threats and even put him in time out the other day which didn't work and I don't feel is the right approach.
any tips gratefully received- feels like a very long day ahead.

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Chickz · 27/03/2015 12:44

I'm watching as I have a sensitive toddler who cries and whines a lot. Anyone out there that has any advice?

FreeButtonBee · 27/03/2015 12:48

I say (a lot) "Mummy doesn't listen to whinging" "If you're going to screech, go and sit over there" "Mummy will listen to you when you ask nicely/clam down/stop whinging". I don't do time out but give an option to tantrum out of my sight and give no attention to it. I will periodically offer a cuddle if they are ready to calm down. Aim is to try to get them to calm down by themselves.

I have 2 yo twins - going through a very melodramatic phase. Illness and teeth do set it off but I find if I crack down swiftly and don't pander or threaten, it reduces faster.

Bugaboom · 27/03/2015 14:55

Well not long after I posted, he took himself off to bed and slept for 2 hours! So that might explain this morning, if not the rest of the week.
Don't pander and don't threaten sounds like good advice free.
Chicz I've noticed my ds seems sensitive compared to others. Hopefully just a phase...

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Chickz · 27/03/2015 17:00

My toddler has whined from birth. Its soul destroying but one day I hope everything will work out and she will be happy.

33goingon64 · 27/03/2015 17:12

Tiredness builds up and can involve 'bad' behaviour for days before it becomes obvious. DS almost never has tantrums and has had 3 recently building up to a week of illness. If you're sure it's not connected to illness or excessive tiredness I would set a no tolerance rule on whinging. It has to be dealt with - not an acceptable form of communication in my book!

Meloria · 27/03/2015 17:52

Beatings

Madamecastafiore · 27/03/2015 17:59

Lock them in the cellar!

Seriously glad we moved from house with cellar as DD would reside down there from 9-5.30 if we hadn't of.

She is only 16m and it goes on and on and on.

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