oh my, we have definitely hit the traumatic 2`s. Survival hints & tips gratefully received........im begging you all here.

[jimijack]

So, refusing most foods,
Making himself vomit every other day.
High pitched screeching if anything (which is everything) isn't to his liking.
Throwing, hitting, scratching.

Melt downs galore.

Please help.....

How was he before he became 2? Does he sleep well?

I'd take him out a LOT to the park etc. to get rid of his pent up energy.

Have you tried getting his toys to eat with him and or him feeding his toys? Telling stories while having a meal.

Reinforcing the good behaviour and not making a big thing of his negative behaviour (this works!!).

Maybe he hates being given things without having a choice. ? It's his personality I suppose .

I'd also just give him what he likes for the moment, eat with him and ignore ignore if he eats or not. I speak as an ex CM\nanny to approx 12 dcs, EY teacher and Mof3.

Yes to using up some energy and having a go at feeding his toys first.
Ignore - I know it's difficult - his behaviour, try not to react to the screaming etc. Physically remove yourself out of the way of the hitting.
Yes again to reinforcing the good behaviour.
Be consistent in everything that you choose to do, it's really important.
Adopt a good coping strategy - count to 100 10, remove yourself from the room or whatever works for you.

This WILL pass, in the meantime -

The only tip I have is to work full time - it was the only thing that kept my sanity! It will pass though, DS is 3 now and I'm on ML and he's delightful, some friends who had easier 2 year olds are reporting 'terrible 3's', which doesn't seem to have happened here - thank goodness, as I needed a break from 'behaviour'!